I know, it sounds counter-intuitive, right? After all, don’t we all wait and enjoy the holidays? Time off from work, travel, quality time with family, etc. Well, it’s all wonderful and exciting; however, statistically speaking, the holiday season often brings a lot of unwelcome “guests” such as stress, anxiety, even depression!
Most of us go through an endless “to do list” – shopping, cleaning, cooking, baking, organizing parties, attending parties, calling/emailing friends and family members, traveling, driving, flying, waiting…. Although most of us look forward to family celebrations, many experience times of intense disappointment and conflict. Before you know it, the holidays have passed you by but you were too busy or upset to enjoy them!..
The usual “suspects” that trigger or cause holiday “un-ease” are: high expectations, ineffective communication, financial pressures, and physical demands.
High expectations, in general, don’t lead to satisfaction and happiness, because life is not perfect, people are not perfect and “things” happen, however, high expectations don’t allow much room for “oops”.
With images of the “perfect” holidays we have in mind from TV commercials and magazine ads and all the anticipation that gets built up, our expectations fly so high that it is next to impossible to fulfill them. Those of you who are perfectionists or “recovering perfectionists” know what I am talking about. As you also may know, when you have high expectations, something always happens to spoil things…
Ineffective Communication is one of the top causes of conflict in any relationship. In contrast, Effective Communication is one of the most important aspects of family dynamics at any time, especially during the holidays when family members are packed together for an extended period of time. Alcohol, lack of personal space or lack of sleep often contribute to agitation and frustration. Old hurts, lack of attention or inconsiderate remarks can trigger an emotional cord and before you know it the festivity is spoiled and the holiday spirit is ruined. Somehow, when we gather together for the holidays, we often forget how important it is to be kind and considerate to one other, especially with family members. On the flip side, there are many people who spend the holidays alone. This can lead to some serious stress-related health complications like depression, fear and anxiety.
Money issues always add unwanted pressure to our lives. In our society, we often value “things” by price tags, while overlooking the value of intention and effort. Although the holiday time is an opportunity to exchange presents, for many it’s an excuse to overspend and overextend beyond your budget, assuming that you have one. Don’t get me wrong, I love presents and am not suggesting to stop offering them. I simply think that living within your means at all times, including during the holidays, is a common sense, practical and financially healthy habit to have.
Physical demands of the holidays are so high that we often feel the need for vacation after the holidays! All the shopping, cleaning, planning, cooking, entertaining, let alone conflict resolutions, leave us feeling exhausted. With all the physical and psychological demands that we have to deal with during this high pressure time it’s no wonder that many feel stressed out and worn out! In turn, this leads to a weakening of the immune system and susceptibility to illness.
But wait, enough said about the causes of disturbances – now let’s see what can be done about them! I suggest you start with Taking the Time and Assessing your Attitude toward potential Stressors. Below are my suggestions that will help you address possible concerns and keep joy and your health intact during the Holidays.
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