As I went for my daily walk this morning, my attention was caught up by the variety of trees and bushes that I passed by on my way. I marveled at the beautiful toll pine trees, exotic Japanese maples, and strong and solid oaks. Not all of the trees that I was passing by were in perfect shape or form, but they were doing their best using the environment they happened to be in (the climate, the ground, exposure to sun, close neighbors, etc). Suddenly, an interesting thought came to mind – each of these trees is so unique and beautiful in its own way and it would never “occur to them” to wish they were a different kind of tree… In fact, their unique qualities make them what they are!
If I apply the same analogy to human beings – both men and women – the picture is quite different. There are a lot of people that wish they were someone else or had a different body, face, skills, younger lover, better circumstances, etc. This focus on what you want to have vs. what you have causes discontent, unhappiness, and possible depression or other illnesses. When you keep focusing on what’s lacking in your life, it’s nearly impossible to feel vibrant, confident, and happy. Yet, this is exactly what we want to feel, isn’t it?
So, if your priority in life is to feel happy and free, ACCEPT “what is”. Accept your chubby body, your curly hair, your partner that needs to learn how to communicate better or a family member that is not easy to get along with. I realize it might be controversial, but I would dare to say – accept your aging, accept your own sickness or being unemployed. Once you accept “what is” – your challenging or unpleasant circumstances – you release the energy that you use to “fight” them and focus on what you CAN do to IMPROVE upon “what is”. I am sure you realize that being upset, angry, jealous, or discouraged are not helpful attitudes and your attitude is a key. Life is a balance of holding on and letting go…Hold on to things, people, and memories that uplift and empower you. Let go of things or people that irritate or upset you, accept “what is” and see what you can do to improve upon it.
Do not compare yourself with others – it’s a guaranteed way to destroy your confidence and sabotage your success. Radical self-acceptance goes a long way. First, be content with who you are and what you have and then decide what skills or personality traits you would like to develop… or not. Do what feels right for YOU, because you are valuable and beautiful just the way you are!
Millen has a way of opening up conversations that not only make you feel safe to talk about money, but her questions have been so profound that they have made immediate shifts in my mindset and my circumstances have changed almost immediately too, including more money showing up, but more importantly, more and more opportunities. I have found new and inspired direction, and am feeling a lot more peaceful and excited about life in general. Millen offers so much value and a solid advice! She is a big picture thinker and it is infectious! Thank you, Millen, from the bottom of my heart and the top of my soul.
Millen Livis is a gift to humanity. Millen is very generous with her time and energy, sharing her vast life experiences and strengths, empowering me to become a better human being. Millen has impacted my life spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially, by her encouragement and clarity. I have not said, “Thank you!” enough.
Millen brings together an interesting mix of feminine wisdom, clear logic, assertiveness and humility in all of her interactions. With her warmth, intelligence, diverse experience and passion for ‘Dare to be the best you could be’ message, she inspires other women to reach for the goals they set for themselves.
Using laser like energy, Millen gives her full attention to your issue and stays with it until a satisfactory resolution or conclusion is reached. Open minded, yet direct and honest, Millen balances objectivity with compassion. It is a joy to work with her!
I would be honored to help you live your best life.
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BEST THINGS come to those who seize the moment and make it their own!