Excerpts from the upcoming book “Make Better Relationship Choices”
When you are trapped in the trance of unworthiness, you don’t recognize what is happening inside you. You don’t realize that your view of who you are is distorted and your heart is hardened.
To recover from the trance, to open your heart and allow kindness and love to nurture you is not an easy fix. It’s a process. The hidden pockets of inadequacy and insecurity have a way of persisting despite your best efforts and years of practice.
However, it is possible…if you ACCEPT yourself and your circumstances and also APPRECIATE what you have in your life. When you truly appreciate what you already have, you invite more goodness into your life. That is the way to rediscover the cherished sense of self-love, joy and peace.
You accustom to experience life only in a forward moving motion. You don’t have time to pause, get still and experience life in a present moment. Yet that is what you need in order to appreciate and accept.
There is a simple visual exercise to experience acceptance and appreciation in your life. Imagine for a moment that you stop sailing through your life and drop an anchor. From a moment of stillness capture a new way to see your reality…. Then pull up the anchor and continue your journey. This pause may present a new direction, a new attitude or a ‘better weather!’ Recognize that YOU have the power to hold a pause— be in your ‘present moment’—for as long as you choose to keep the anchor in place.
When you sail through your life, you concentrate on forward motion, on your FUTURE, and there is less time to pay attention to ‘the present moment’—to your NOW. There is no anxiety or fear in the present moment, only awareness and acceptance of ‘what is.’
When you start acting in the world from the place of peace, compassion and gratitude toward yourself and others, you will start feeling relaxed and joyful. Your perspectives on people and events will shift too and new awareness of yourself and the world will bring a sense of liberation and harmony. That is the authentic power.
Once you get clear about your intentions, whether they are career, relationship or health related, let go of any attachments. Have faith that things will work out according to the highest wisdom of the universe. Allow space and time for your intentions to unfold.
Millen has a way of opening up conversations that not only make you feel safe to talk about money, but her questions have been so profound that they have made immediate shifts in my mindset and my circumstances have changed almost immediately too, including more money showing up, but more importantly, more and more opportunities. I have found new and inspired direction, and am feeling a lot more peaceful and excited about life in general. Millen offers so much value and a solid advice! She is a big picture thinker and it is infectious! Thank you, Millen, from the bottom of my heart and the top of my soul.
Millen Livis is a gift to humanity. Millen is very generous with her time and energy, sharing her vast life experiences and strengths, empowering me to become a better human being. Millen has impacted my life spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially, by her encouragement and clarity. I have not said, “Thank you!” enough.
Millen brings together an interesting mix of feminine wisdom, clear logic, assertiveness and humility in all of her interactions. With her warmth, intelligence, diverse experience and passion for ‘Dare to be the best you could be’ message, she inspires other women to reach for the goals they set for themselves.
Using laser like energy, Millen gives her full attention to your issue and stays with it until a satisfactory resolution or conclusion is reached. Open minded, yet direct and honest, Millen balances objectivity with compassion. It is a joy to work with her!
I would be honored to help you live your best life.
There’s no obligation. Only opportunity.
BEST THINGS come to those who seize the moment and make it their own!