Editor’s Note: This post is a contribution by a guest writer Trish Bishop
There is a feeling within many of us of being unfulfilled, incomplete, even lost. While we may have a sense of ourselves and sometimes even glimpse of our own power, at the same time we tend to have more questions than answers about who we are, why we’re here and what we’re supposed to be doing. The personal development industry is a multi-billion dollar industry and I have a sense it will quickly start to take over the diet and weight loss industry. We are not simply seeking answers, we are feeling compelled to do so. Surely that book, video, course or workshop will have my answers. Then we read that book, watch that video or go to that course or workshop and for a short time we feel as if we’ve connected or resonated with something. However, the sense that we’ve ‘found our answers’ is fleeting. We may have collected a piece of something along the way, but the simple truth is that nobody ‘out there’ has your answers.
Great news! The very fact that you are feeling compelled to seek out these important answers means that your journey has already begun. The even greater news is that you can stop searching and seeking for the ‘teacher’ or ‘guru’ who has your answers. No, it’s not me – it’s YOU! Yes, you have all of your answers. In fact, I believe that the moment you are able to even articulate a question, you already have the answer. It is never about whether or not you have the answer, it is always about your willingness to look inside yourself and accept it.
“Look inside the question for your answers.” ~Rumi
Perhaps your answer is, “I need to be living in California”. You’ve been getting messages everywhere you look. There is something inside of you calling you to California, you can even see yourself there sometimes. The issue is not about whether or not you have the answer, the issue is that you immediately start looking outside of yourself; how will my decision impact others, how will the relationships in my life change. You resist the change, and therefore you resist the answer. Yet, in not acknowledging your own answers, you create within yourself the very sense of un-fulfillment that you are trying so desperately to fill. Each time you disregard your own answer, you become more disconnected from who you really are, from your intuition, from your Spirit.
Unfortunately, the more disconnected we become from ourselves, the more connected we become to everything that is outside of who we are. Our reality becomes defined by our surroundings and our relationships, slowly but surely spiraling out of control until we come the place where we are feeling compelled to find answers to reclaim our authentic selves.
So, the questions then become, how can you re-connect with yourself?
How can you learn to trust your intuition?
How can you find the courage to listen to the small whisperings of your heart’s desires rather than the little voice in your head?
I’d like to propose a very simple 4-step process to help you re-learn to re-connect with your inner wisdom:
1. Break the “buy your answers” habit. When you feel compelled to buy personal development books, CD’s, seminars, etc. STOP! They are all saying the same thing – look inside for your answers. It doesn’t mean you won’t ever buy them again, but when you do, you’ll be looking at them through a new lens – your own! There is a distinct difference between information and knowledge. Information is what you ‘learn’ is true – knowledge is what you ‘know’ is true. Connecting with your inner wisdom is all about knowledge.
2. Shut off the chaos valve. You’ve been spending far too much time ensuring you have no time. All of the excuses and stories in the world won’t change the fact that this chaos is helping you to avoid what you don’t want to deal with. It’s time to be quiet. It is only in the quiet that you will find your answers.
3. Rip-off the band-aid. We’ve been conditioned to hide our hurts and pain; to be strong. We’ve learned to cover up our hurts with emotional band-aids. However, when you leave a band-aid on a wound, it impairs the natural healing process. These wounds need to be exposed to the air to heal effectively. No different than when you pull off a physical band-aid, it may hurt, but by allowing the emotional wound to be exposed you are allowing it to heal. Allow any emotions that come up to have their moment, this is part of the healing process.
4. Cut the strings. We’ve been conditioned to be and act in a way that is ‘acceptable’ to society – they are pulling the strings of defining who and what we are. ENOUGH! When you judge yourself for how you want to dress or act, or say – before you decide to not do it because “they” won’t think it’s OK – I would encourage you to define “they”.
Ultimately, the greatest gift you can give yourself at this moment in your evolution is to be quiet with yourself. Don’t be afraid of being alone, welcome it. Welcome whatever emerges – it wants to come out and when it does, you will be lighter, and ultimately healthier, for it.
About the Author: A Spiritual Coach, author of “The Question Journey”, and speaker, Trish was formerly an IT Consultant designing and implementing global enterprise learning solutions for Fortune 500 companies. After being diagnosed with Scleroderma (a rare form of Rheumatoid Arthritis) in 1998, Trish refused all medications and began an incredible journey to reclaim her health, and ultimately her life. Her mission is to educate and inspire people to consciously step into the full expression of who and what they are.
Millen is a Wealth architect and Financial Independence Coach, entrepreneur, and a bestselling author. Being a Possibilities’ Catalyst, she uses her intuition, business, and investment expertise to support entrepreneurial women (like you) who want to master their money, live their purpose achieve financial prosperity and freedom. With her physics and business education, corporate and entrepreneurial experience, money management know-how, mindfulness practices and transformational coaching skills, Millen has a unique ability to guide and support clients in achieving extraordinary success in their lives.