Going to the University was my escape plan from the constant negativity and emotional abuse I felt at home.
My plan was to go to school and never come back. EVER.
I had achieved top honors in high school and had decided to attend a top college in St Petersburg (now Russia), to become a physicist.
In the former USSR, the application process included your passport.
Even though my family did not practice the Jewish religion (ALL religions were prohibited in the country at that time), I was identified as Jewish in my passport.
The university advisors looked at my paperwork and passport and said: “This University is not the right place for you.”
Not only was I a woman, trying to be a physicist, but I was identified as a Jewish Woman trying to be a physicist – an unacceptable combination at the “Old School Communist Boys’ Club” University” and frankly, the entire country.
My friends and high school teachers told me to “Not Fight The System!”
But I pushed to make it happen.
I needed to pass one test to start the process of college enrollment. Normally, that test was given orally, and the answers were delivered on paper, but things would be different in my case.
The professor asked me the questions and had me do the math and answer the questions on a blackboard instead of paper.
Once the test was done, even though I had passed the exam with flying colors, the “specially trained” professor erased the board (destroying my work), and gave me an F grade.
I was stunned; it was like I’d been knocked down by a hammer.
For my entire life, I had believed that knowledge, hard work, passion, and dedication were all I needed.
Before that dismal day, despite my father, I always believed that I could do anything!
But my friends and teachers were right – I couldn’t fight “The System,” but maybe I could work around it.
And I did…kinda.
One year later, I was accepted to another prestigious university and began my Master’s level Physics’ study.
Unfortunately, the “Old School Communist Boys’ Network” still had a few surprises waiting for me.
I did great at the University and became an intern at the Academy of Science. In my final year of college, the Academy of Science sent a request to the University for me to work there after my graduation.
Knowing the “Old School Communist Boy’s Club” I told you about before – any guesses what happened??
The faculty of the University figuratively put a gun to my head.
They told me I had to sign a paper saying I did not want to take the Academy of Sciences offer, or I would have a lot of challenges in finishing my courses and ever graduating.
The message was clear – “Don’t play against us or ELSE!”
And so, my mentor at the Academy of Science gave me this advice:
“Learn English and get the hell out of this swamp!”
In the next story, I’ll tell you about another part of my life that was happening at the same time.
Have you ever had to deal with an Ultimatum?
Have you ever been put in the unfair position that was REALLY important for you?
Has the “Old Boys’ Club” shortened your career or imposed the glass ceiling on your career prospects?
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Millen is a Wealth architect and Financial Independence Coach, entrepreneur, and a bestselling author. Being a Possibilities' Catalyst, she uses her intuition, business, and investment expertise to support entrepreneurial women (like you) who want to master their money, live their purpose achieve financial prosperity and freedom. With her physics and business education, corporate and entrepreneurial experience, money management know-how, mindfulness practices and transformational coaching skills, Millen has a unique ability to guide and support clients in achieving extraordinary success in their lives.