Dare to Choose Yourself!

Written By Millen Livis

“Growth may be painful. Change may be painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.” – Mandy Hale

Have you ever felt like you are crumbling inside by being in a wrong place, or with a wrong person, or in a wrong career? Do you think that many of us are somewhat drifting through life with least awareness of our own inherent power to CHOOSE? Controlled by fear of change and uncertainty to the degree that halts their actions and blocks their creative potential, many people miss out on opportunities that do cross their path! They don’t recognize them or don’t take advantage of them because of their deeply-ingrained limiting beliefs about themselves and their potential. And the opportunities never evolve into possibilities….

It is my belief that a lot of people live as if their life is just a rehearsal, while paralyzed by envy, self-doubts and fears – chronically discontent about their life, with little joy and satisfaction. Many do not go beyond whining, complaining and resenting. There are endless excuses, blame, justifications for procrastination and yet…lack of action.

The self-doubt, envy and self-pity block your ability to see clearly how powerful, capable and special you are. The fog of fear prevents you from seeing that you can break free from this imprisonment. While it’s important to manage risk and act responsibly in your professional life, there is a point when you must make a decision – to choose yourself.

Like everybody else, you probably have an army of advisors – parents, friends, family members, coaches and managers. While it’s wise to seek support and guidance outside of yourself, you need to discern what resonates with youyour values, your aspirations, your supportive beliefs – and assert your own decisions.

Confident decisiveness is required for having a successful career. You can develop it by trusting your inner knowing, by practicing self-reliance and by strengthening your resilience. When you act in spite of your self-doubt and fear, believing in your ability to achieve your goals, no matter what, you reclaim your inner power and exude confident decisiveness.

Listen to Your Intuition

You may work for years at your job or business, feeling bored or fed up, suffering in silence from dissatisfaction and lack of acknowledgement but not realizing that this prolonged internal stress destroys your health and diminishes your self-confidence.

When you experience prolonged stress, whether it’s physical, emotional, mental or all of the above, you literally make yourself sick. That’s when you must procrastinate no more because you’re overdue for a change!

As a spiritual being going through a physical experience, you are well-equipped to use your inner navigation system – your intuition, your gut feeling, your insight or Inner Advisor. When going through challenging experiences, I remind myself and others of the well-known saying: ‘Let Go and Let God.’ You are able to transcend the limitations of your mind and access this Collective Consciousness or the Infinite Source of Wholeness.

Albert Einstein wrote, “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”

There are various ways to connect to the Universal Consciousness: prayer (asking), gratitude (expressing), meditation (receiving), or feeling – observing sensations in your body when you ask yourself specific questions. I practice all of the above but find the ‘body barometer’ to be the most efficient for myself. The body is a unique tool that you can use to connect to your Inner Advisor, to your higher self.

I invite you to try an exercise to determine whether it’s time to make a change in your professional life. Visualize yourself being at work, doing what you usually do, feeling what you usually feel while at work. Then ask yourself: “Is this current job (or business) a good fit with my aspirations and talents?” Now observe the sensations in your body.

Do you feel heavy or light, excited and inspired or painfully disturbed? Your body will give you an answer with positive certainty. If you feel tightness in your chest, muscle tension and overall un-ease, then it’s time to change course. Act now.

* Some text was taken from my upcoming book “A Shift toward Purpose: Secrets to an Amazing Career” available on Amazon on September 17th, 2015

With Love and Gratitude,


About the Author

Millen is a Wealth architect and Financial Independence Coach, entrepreneur, and a bestselling author. Being a Possibilities' Catalyst, she uses her intuition, business, and investment expertise to support entrepreneurial women (like you) who want to master their money, live their purpose achieve financial prosperity and freedom. With her physics and business education, corporate and entrepreneurial experience, money management know-how, mindfulness practices and transformational coaching skills, Millen has a unique ability to guide and support clients in achieving extraordinary success in their lives.

  1. Thank you, Millen, for sharing this message, especially today on 9/11. I like your blend of advice, encouragement, and your feeling exercise to help access the answers within. xox, Reba

    1. Thank you, Reba, for your feedback and kind words! I looove to blend encouragement and practical stuff in my writing and my coaching! 🙂 Much Love and Blessings your way!

    1. Hi Suzie, thank you for your comment. Yes, our intuition is a powerful tool that is available to us when we listen/pay attention! I love guided visualization, use it all the time in my work and personal life.

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