I am a big believer in having a dream, a vision for your life and work. Just like you use a GPS or a map for getting from point A to point B, your chances to get to your destination are much higher if you know where you are going or what you want to achieve. It is important to be honest with yourself and clear about your passions, values, interests and talents. Clarity and Honesty enable Empowerment.
I like to say that it is important to live in integrity with your dreams. Why? Because doing what you love, what is your true authentic self-expression is the way to success and fulfillment in life. I see it again and again in others and have experienced it myself through several evolutions of my own professional career. Most people who chose their profession because it was prestigious, or well-paid, or convenient, or was suggested to them by a friend or a family member, come back to this question “WHAT do I really want to do with my life?”
I’ve encountered many people who hate their current jobs, feel miserable at where they are and can’t wait to become an entrepreneur and be their own boss. I was one of these people – I couldn’t wait to have my own business. So, I am not judging you if you feel that your job is not part of your dream. I get it! Some people happened to be in a wrong place whether it’s a business or a job. That being said, appreciating what you have in your life helps expand your opportunities and avoid a continuous turmoil in your mind and in your heart. Dr. Wayne Dyer famously said “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”
So, let’s talk about J.O.B. I have heard a few versions for the acronym J.O.B., from Just Over Broke to Just Obey Boss to Join Our Bureaucracy. I must admit that the superior and arrogant attitude about having a job in our modern society is disturbing to me.
You are naturally programmed to satisfy your inherent needs. While you were very young, you expected your parents to take care of you – provide food, shelter, medical care, express love and affection. However, later in life, you go through a ‘separation phase’ when your expectations for satisfying your primal needs begin to shift to yourself, to being self-reliant.
Teenagers and young adults, who have part-time jobs while attending school, learn earlier in life how to earn, spend and save money. They usually grow up more mature and better adept at taking care of themselves and respect any kind of work as a result of their appreciation for the ability to be autonomous.
Work that allows you to take care of yourself and your family must be appreciated and respected, even if it’s not what you would like to do in your life. In my opinion, it is preposterous to speak without respect about any job and refuse work because it’s below you while expecting others (family, government, society) to provide for your basic needs.
It is essential from a physical and spiritual perspective to feel that you can withstand challenges in life and be self-reliant. It builds character and endurance. Always find appreciation for the work you have at the moment and view it as a stepping stone to your ultimate ‘dream work.’
I recall in my early thirties working in a flower shop, getting paid a minimum wage and thinking that I could do ‘bigger and better things’ as a trained physicist and an experienced software engineer. But various circumstances in my life at that time did not allow me to do ‘bigger and better.’
I realized how fortunate I was to have a job that was providing for my family’s basic needs. My attitude shifted, I became more grateful and positive and soon moved on to a more satisfying job, which became yet another stepping stone for my ultimate ‘dream work.’
Having a vision of your ‘dream work’ is as important as seeing value in your current work and feeling appreciation for the benefits it offers. Keeping your dream alive programs your subconscious to navigate through life in a way that allows you to collect the necessary skills and experiences to get you to the work you feel you were meant to do, your ‘dream work.’
*Some text was taken from my upcoming book “A Shift toward Purpose: Secrets to an Amazing Career” available on Amazon on September 17th, 2015
With Love and Gratitude,
Millen is a Wealth architect and Financial Independence Coach, entrepreneur, and a bestselling author. Being a Possibilities' Catalyst, she uses her intuition, business, and investment expertise to support entrepreneurial women (like you) who want to master their money, live their purpose achieve financial prosperity and freedom. With her physics and business education, corporate and entrepreneurial experience, money management know-how, mindfulness practices and transformational coaching skills, Millen has a unique ability to guide and support clients in achieving extraordinary success in their lives.