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What Is Your Worth? Hint: It’s Not What You Think!

Written By Millen Livis

“The more you’re like yourself, the less you are like anyone else, which makes you unique.”
~ Walt Disney

“I am not where I supposed to be in this stage of my life.”

“I appreciate the great money I make but I feel I could do and have more.”

“If I only had a thriving business, I would be happy. I don’t feel that I live my full potential.”

In my experience as a wealth coach and financial freedom mentor, I have yet to meet a single woman who was truly deeply connected to the intrinsic magic that she possesses.

I am referring to the true magic of YOU that is so much more than your appearance, your business success or the size of your bank/brokerage account.

I am referring to the magic of YOU that you were so highly aware of when you were a little kid.

Remember those glorious days when everything was possible; when you were happy by just being YOU?

Remember the time when you didn’t try to prove your worth or impress anybody? When you didn’t compare yourself?

Do you remember those days when your heart was filled with enthusiasm for life and curiosity about ‘what else is possible’?

Would you agree that you were more connected to the REAL YOU when you were a child than you are now?

Although your physical body has changed significantly, the true essence of you as pure consciousness, as spiritual being, hasn’t changed!

That’s why when you see your picture when you were 3 or 5 years old, you can easily recognize yourself although there is not a single cell that is present in your body now was present than…

“How does all this relate to money and wealth?’ you may ask.

Good Question!

If you want to achieve success in life, you must shift your perception of yourself as limited, unlucky or any other judgmental label you may have assigned to yourself.

Money is energy and it likes to ‘hangout’ with those who emit true enthusiasm for life and live in the question “What else is possible?”

So many people live their lives by subconsciously counting their ‘successes and failures’, their ‘right and wrong decisions’, their ‘luck and misfortunes’.

What if you shifted your perspective of yourself and stopped trying to ‘prove your value’?

What if you released your judgements of yourself whatever they may be – successful, unlucky, looser, achiever – and instead truly connected to the AWARENESS of YOUR INTRINSIC VALUE?

I realize that these suggestions may sound esoteric or even radical for some of you… After all, it’s part of our culture to strive for bigger and better, for glamour and fame, right?

It is also likely that your parents had good intentions while planting the seeds of judgement in your mind by saying things like “You could do much better.”

Ask yourself, does it make YOU happier to be in a perpetual ‘proving your worth’ state of mind?

Does it make YOU more joyful, more loving and more connected to God?

It has been my personal experience and observation of other people’s struggles that looking for your value and trying to prove your worth or your specialness lead to comparisons, endless competitiveness and, ultimately, inner unhappiness or turmoil.

Rather than BEING AWARE and OWNING THE INTRINSIC VALUE OF YOU,  you’re trying to prove your value and your worth. By the way, when I say you, I include myself in this category, as I too had been in this subtle mental trap for a long time.

Today I invite you to entertain the following questions

  • What would it be like if you stopped judging yourself and trying to prove your value and instead recognized your inherited worthiness?
  • How much happier will you feel?
  • How much freer will you be?

I find true Self-awareness to be so important for life satisfaction and wealth building that I incorporate these concepts of ‘winning the inner game’ into my wealth building training as essential elements for living a prosperous, happy and healthy.


To your Health, Wealth and freedom!




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About the Author

Millen is a Wealth architect and Financial Independence Coach, entrepreneur, and a bestselling author. Being a Possibilities' Catalyst, she uses her intuition, business, and investment expertise to support entrepreneurial women (like you) who want to master their money, live their purpose achieve financial prosperity and freedom. With her physics and business education, corporate and entrepreneurial experience, money management know-how, mindfulness practices and transformational coaching skills, Millen has a unique ability to guide and support clients in achieving extraordinary success in their lives.

  1. I completely relate to you post, Millen, and the trap we set up for ourselves when we seek external validation of our worth. Life with all its ups and downs becomes much easier when we accept our intrinsic worth and our exquisite uniqueness.

    Happy Valentine’s Day to you and yours.

    1. Yes, Vatsala, you captured the essence of this article very well. Chasing after external validation is a losing game of our ego. Thank you for contributing to this conversation!

  2. Such an important topic for adults and teens as well. I see how my daughter and her friends are constantly looking for validation in the wrong places. Thank you for this!

    1. Sadly, Sarit, the chase for external validation is VERY common among young adults and grown ups! And this unhealthy addiction often leads to unhappiness, comparisons and depression. I am sure that your awareness of this subject will help your daughter as well find power, confidence and love within.

  3. Such an important message Millen! I could not agree more with your emphasis on the power of perception – perception is everything! Our beliefs and perceptions serve as the source of the stories we tell to ourselves and others about who we are, where we come from and where we are going. While most of these stories are not true, left unattended in time they become who we are. Thanks for reminding us to look deeper.

    1. Yes, Marquita, very well stated. Our perceptions, values and beliefs comprise our inner Eco system and affect all our experiences in life because that is what we project out. Thank you for stopping by! 🙂

  4. Great message. I completely agree with you and wrote a similar post it wasn’t in relation to money but body image. Shifting your perspective and appreciate where you are and what you have. With that shift, great things will come. Be happy now not an “I’ll be happy when … fill in the blank.” We are entirely too hard on ourselves. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Yes, more often than not, we are too hard on ourselves, Summer! I am glad that you find this topic important and incorporated it into your own post on body image!

  5. What caught my attention, Millen was where you wrote about proving value. How we place this value scale on ourselves as to how others see us. Media advertising telling us these are things we should value and we question whether we get value for our money. It’s a paradox of not seeing value in ourselves and the need to seek value outside of ourselves. Thanks for raising and interesting point for me to ponder on.

    1. I agree, Joyce, it is a paradox of our existence as human beings that we tend to seek an external approval of our value. And sadly, it is very common in our culture among young adults and grownups alike! Thank you for your comment!

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