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  • 7 Keys to Regain Control Over Your Money: Step #4 – Track your money and identify money leaks in your cash flow

    7 Keys to Regain Control Over Your Money: Step #4 – Track your money and identify money leaks in your cash flow

     

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    Do you sometimes feel like you’re living paycheck to paycheck and don’t know where your money went by the end of the month? You work really hard to make money but then spend most of it on just…living your life?

    Regardless of how high your income is, what really matters is how much you make relative to how much you spend.

    In other words, pay attention to how much money you keep every month.

    If you’re earning $3k and spending $2k a month, you’d probably be less stressed out about your finances than if you’re making $8k but spending $9k a month.

    I recently spoke with a professional single-mom in this situation. She works multiple jobs and takes home about $5,400 per month, which is well above the median household income.

    Yet, she spends about $6k a month.

    This is leaving her with no savings and a growing mountain of credit card debt.

    Since she’s struggling to pay her bills and have been late with payments, she has seen the interest rates on the credit card debt jump to as high as 29%. Even worse, the financial stress has put a strain on health. She started experiencing migraines, anxiety and insomnia.

    If any of this sounds familiar to you, you’re not alone.

    Many people who have seemingly good income suffer from lack of “intentional money management”. Yes, situations like an unexpected job loss, medical bills or other financial emergencies happen.

    But for the most part, it’s how you manage your cash flow – incoming and out-coming – that will make a difference in your financial life.

    Here are some simple suggestions to help you track your money so that you get back control over your finances:

    1. Evaluate Your Income. How much money do you have coming in?

    It may seem like obvious knowledge yet it’s not the case for many people.

    You may have several sources of income – from part-time jobs, freelancing, your mate’s income, annuities’ payments, etc.

    So, get really clear what you total monthly income is. Using one centralized account for your in-coming cash flow could be helpful.

    Then you can decide how much money you want to keep every month (aka “pay yourself first.”)

    The difference is what you can now allocate to various lifestyle expenses.

    2. Figure out where your money is currently going.

    You can’t improve what you don’t measure.

    Take a look at the last 3 months of your bank and credit card statements and categorize each of your expenses in a spreadsheet (you can create your own or find money tracking spreadsheets online).

    That will cover everything purchased by automatic withdrawal, checks, debit or credit cards.

    While you can’t see what you bought in cash, you can at least see how much cash you withdrew.

    By looking at 3 months’ spending, you can get an average of monthly variable expenses like transportation/gas, groceries, and entertainment that aren’t always the same every month and monthly fixed expenses like utilities (electricity, water, internet, etc.), rent/mortgage, medical insurance premium, gym membership, etc.

    You’ll also capture quarterly or annual expenses like some property taxes, home insurance, personal tax returns, etc.

    However, that still leaves some spending that may happen once or twice a year like a summer vacation or holiday gifts.

    You can divide what you spend on those annual expenses by 12 to convert them into a monthly amount.

    For example, if you tend to spend about $4,800 a year on a family vacation, you would say that you spend $400 a month on vacations.

    There are sites like mint.com and yodlee.com that can help you to continue tracking your spending online for free.

    This is especially useful if you have lots of different accounts since they consolidate everything on one site. You can even get set up to be alerted by email or text message if you start spending more than you budgeted for in any particular category.

    3. Find where you can cut back.

    Start with your fixed expenses and think about how you might be able to spend less on each one.

    Shop around for lower cost insurance, cable, internet, and/or phone service.

    Are you paying for insurance coverage, services, memberships, or subscriptions you don’t really need?

    Can you be more efficient with your energy and water use to cut down on utility bills?

    Have you taken advantage of coupons or warehouse clubs for groceries?

    Can you refinance or negotiate down the interest rates on your debt?

    And if you really need additional money, you might even want to consider working a part-time job, moving into a lower rent apartment, getting a roommate, or renting a room in your home.

    Always be mindful of where you can cut your unnecessary expenses if you want to save more.

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  • 7 Steps to Regain Control Over Your Money: Step #3 – Pay off your debt

    7 Steps to Regain Control Over Your Money: Step #3 – Pay off your debt

    Do you or someone you know is dealing with a mountain of debt?

    Paying off your Debt is Key #3 to regain control over your money!

    Here’s the NAKED TRUTH:

    You either MASTER your Money OR get MASTERED by MONEY.

    When you accumulate Consumer DEBT, YOU get MASTERED BY MONEY!

    It’s that simple.

    For many people, debt becomes an addiction. Just like with drugs, getting into debt is as easy as popping a pill. And getting out of debt is just as difficult as getting rid of a drug addiction.

    Consumer Debt is a form of financial addiction.

    It’s the way banks and credit card companies make profit by charging you insane interest rates and getting the compound interest.

    Did you know there were no credit cards until 1946 and as late as 1970 only 15% of Americans had one?

    Today credit card companies send out billions of new offers each year!

    The debt addiction enslaved millions of people to their lender.

    Whether it’s a credit card, car loan, student loan or even a mortgage – debt has gotten out of hand for millions and millions of people! 

    Consumer Debt is a poison for your financial success.

    You can’t leap ahead because it’s constantly chasing you down.

    Consumer Debt is a poison in your personal life. It breaks you down, destroys you dreams, destroys your health, decimates your family, and leaves you broke.

    It truly causes havoc in your life.

    And even if you don’t have a mountain of debt right now, I want you to realize the enormity of debt addiction in people of all walks of life.

    You must be wide awake if one day you face a dilemma about using Credit cards or other consumer loans to pay for something you want but don’t have money in the bank to pay for… AT THIS MOMENT.

    All debt is NOT created equal.

    Wise Debut and Unwise Debt

    I divide debt into 2 categories: WISE Debt and UNWISE Debt.

    WISE Debt: borrowing to invest in APPRECIATING asset.

    Wise Debt is often referred to as Financial Leverage.

    UNWISE Debt: Borrowing for Depreciating Items

    Unwise Debt is also known as Consumer Debt.

    The Bottom line: ANY DEBT = RISK.

    In most occasions Consumer Debt is unnecessary and often dangerous.

    It’s unnecessary because there are usually gradual and less expensive ways to get what you want.

    It is dangerous because it often becomes a downward spiral, a ‘catch 22’ that ruins your health, your relationships and your overall wellbeing.

    And here you have the key #3 to regain control over your money.

    To your Health, Wealth and Freedom!

     

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  • 7 Steps to Regain Control Over Your Money: Step #2 – Have Clarity and Purpose for Your Money, Know Your Priorities and Values

    7 Steps to Regain Control Over Your Money: Step #2 – Have Clarity and Purpose for Your Money, Know Your Priorities and Values

    & keys to regain control over your money

    CLARITY is priceless whether you consider your authentic career path, your relationships or your money. There are a lot of courses about finding your authentic self – expression and living your purpose. Very important, indeed! But your money management aptitude is also very important and requires clarity and purpose as well!

    From my many observations, managing money tends to be easier when you have a certain PURPOSE in mind: Saving for your first house or a car, becoming financially independent or retiring at a certain age, a child’s college education or your own financial education training, a trip to Europe or even attending a concert of your favorite band!

    The important thing is to be clear, specific and inspired by the purpose.

    You are a spiritual being and succeeding at the Money Game is part of your physical experience. Like with everything else, you may go through rough times and good times with your finances.

    Having the skills to help you navigate through the stormy and calm waters of your financial sea is very useful whether you’re already making 6 – 7 figures per year or still on your way there!

    Becoming an effective money manager of your own money is a skillset that you can attain!

    Do you spend your money wisely?

    Do you invest your money strategically?

    Do you leverage your money so that the money you already have works for you when you are not working?

    These are questions you may ponder on…

    Effective money management is a skill that you can learn like any other. Although it’s not rocket science, it requires discipline and a responsible attitude.

    If you want to change your money habits, you need to replace them with better ones and practice them consistently. That’s why I like the notion of organizing your money according to its PURPOSE.

    And there are other factors you may want to include when you’re organizing your money – your VALUES and PRIORITIES.

    For example, if your core value is to have more choices and freedom AND you want to become financially free even before your retirement age, you would prioritize saving and investing vs having a new car every couple of years, or spending thousands on yearly exotic vacations and designer clothes.

    Knowing your values and priorities will help you make better financial decisions.

    To develop a sound financial plan, it’s helpful to have your financial goals aligned with your values AND have a time frame and a dollar amount.

    For example, if you want to become financially independent by a certain time, it’s very helpful to know what monthly amount will cover all your potential financial needs. I call it your “Financial Freedom Number” that my clients calculate during my “Become Financially Savvy” training.

    Once you have listed and quantified your financial goals, you need to prioritize them. You may find, for example, that saving for a new home is more important than buying a new car.

    Whatever your objectives may be, be clear and specific about purpose for your money.

    Figure out how many weeks or months there are between now and when you want to reach your financial objective. Divide the estimated investment required by the number of weeks or months. That’s how much you’ll need to save each week or month to have enough money set aside.

    Remember, a goal is a dream with a deadline.

    To Your Health, Wealth and Freedom!

     

     

    P.S. If you are dissatisfied with your current financial situation, feel that you are not where you’d like to be, financially, at this phase in your life, and want to experience more ease and peace of mind about your financial future, come to the wealth retreat I offer in June in the South of France.

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  • 7 Steps to Regain Control Over Your Money:  Step #1 – Declutter your environments

    7 Steps to Regain Control Over Your Money: Step #1 – Declutter your environments

    7 Steps to regain control over your money

    Let’s get tactical and discuss the steps to regain control over your money.

    Having the right environments is super important. That’s why you hear a lot about decluttering.

    If you live in a home that is filled with clothes that you don’t wear and don’t like, boxes with magazines and souvenirs, pieces of furniture that don’t add anything to the comfort of your physical space, YOU CAN change it!

    If you don’t have an environment that supports what you want to think, feel, createand experience, remind yourself that YOU CAN change it.

    If you have a relationship that doesn’t make you feel supported, loved, and appreciated, that doesn’t spark joy in you – YOU CAN change it.

    If you feel that you got yourself into a “money prison” because of accumulated  debt, or unhealthy spending habits, or arguing with your partner about excessive spending and feeling insecure about your financial future – YOU CAN change it too!

    You can CHOOSE to be clear and intentional with your choices and change what’s not working for you.

    You can move away or towards a different environment, or you can create a new energy in your current environment.

    And whatever you want to change, start changing NOW by letting go of what’s not working for YOU!

    You want to make a big leap? Great, go for it!

    Feel like starting with small changes? Awesome!  Baby steps are great! It’s how you implement BIG changes without feeling overwhelmed.

    Life is what you choose to make of it.  ​​Whether it’s your physical environment, relationship, work, or money.

    Living with your focus on past mistakes drains your energy, deflates your confidence, blocks the flow of wealth, joy, and new opportunities in your life!

    That’s why decluttering your mental space is super important!

    I recall the time in my life when I felt that I must change my environments – my work, my marriage, my financial habits (e.g. shopping therapy) – because I felt empty inside…I felt just existing, going through life instead of living it. 

    BUT I was afraid to change.

    “What if”, “not yet”, and “not now” thinking kept me stuck in the environments that felt like desert. Unfortunately, I didn’t have a support system at that time.

    My FEAR of “not having enough”, not being able to support myself, feeling financially insecure if I leave my marriage, kept me in a prison of my own making for years.

    Until one day…I decided to change.

    First, I asked myself “What is the worst thing that may happen?” Once I reconciled with the answer to this question, fear of consequences couldn’t keep me hostage anymore.

    Then I asked “Why it may not be true that I cannot be financially secure without a man?” And the answers started pouring from my heart onto my journal.

    And then…I asked “What needs to happen NOW so that I feel more ease, joy, and excitement about my life?” And the answer was clear and loud…

    DARE TO CHANGE.

    If you tolerate environments that make you feel overwhelmed, not capable, not supported; the environments that deflate your confidence and sense of personal power – don’ wait for a better time. Or better circumstances. Or a “prince charming” to save you.   

    DO NOT WAIT TO BE SAVED.   YOU ARE YOUR SAVER.

    Change might challenge you. You might need to juggle some things and make a few adjustments…

    BUT it’s possible. And often necessary.

    So that you step into your full power. Get in control of your money. Charge of your financial destiny.

    And the first step is to attend to your environments and declutter your space.

    Next I’ll share the next step to regain control over your money.

     

     

     

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  • This ONE Thing Could Literally Change Your Life

    This ONE Thing Could Literally Change Your Life

    So, the 2018 is officially over with all the successes, challenges, breakdowns, breakthroughs, changes, and transformations.

    It’s a NEW YEAR, a NEW AGE and a NEW PARADIGM!

    And as I heard from one spiritual guru recently, the energy of this year is “Seize the day.”

    In other words, when opportunity knocks, welcome it and run with it. And if challenges get on your path – don’t panic or curse your luck. Find a way to perceive them as…opportunities in motion. Opportunities to learn, grow, and expand.

    This week, I had a privilege to speak to an amazing beautiful 94 years young woman. She has this special spark and charm that is hard to describe in words… One might guess that her life was easy, joyful and fun. Yet it was anything but easy…

    During the WWII, she lived under Nazi’s occupation in Lithuania, escaped, became a refugee and lived in different countries before coming to America; was divorced, remarried, then lost her second husband to cancer…

    She raised two wonderful daughters as a single mom, learned how to master her money, became an investor, achieved financial independence, and became an amazing painter after leaving her professional career as a chemist.

    Her house looks like an art museum… Her many paintings reflect her rocky life journey.

    So, I asked her if she could distill all her experiences and wisdom into ONE thing that really matters… ONE thing that helped her overcome enormous obstacles and go through many personal challenges…what would it be?

    She looked at me, smiled and said: “The only thing that truly matters is whether you’re happy inside despite your life situations…” Then added softly “I am happy inside.”

    “All the time?!”- I asked with some sense of astonishment in my voice.

    “NO”, she responded. “Not all the time! About 95% of the time.”

    I smiled…

    Can it really be THAT simple?

    Yes, I believe it can. And it’s a matter of choice.

    Today you can choose to focus on problems, react to challenges in your life, compare yourself, and feel powerless and unlucky…

    OR

    You can choose to focus on solutions, on what “works” in your life.

    You can choose to believe that you can do anything.

    You can choose to release what no longer serves you.

    You can choose to accept your current life situation and thrive for better.

    You can choose to love yourself just the way you are, without any need to prove anything to anyone.

    You can choose to better yourself and your life through new knowledge and expanded awareness.

    You can choose a new way of being.

    It does not happen overnight.

    It does not happen because it is a New Year.

    It happens because you consciously choose every day what you give your attention to, what thoughts you allow to dominate, what words you use, what habits you practice, what boundaries you establish, and how you re-calibrate your feelings.

    Be kind and loving to YOU. At least 95% of the time. LOL!

    That’s my intention for 2019 in addition to helping as many women as I can to master their money and experience more EASE, PEACE and FREEDOM.

    And that’s why I have a question for you.

    If you could sit down with me for a cup of coffee, what would YOU want to ask me? What top one or two questions you’d like to ask me?

    Just message me or write in the comments below your questions.

    To your Health, Wealth and Freedom!

     

     

    P.S. I’m serious! Go ahead and message me or write in the comments below your questions. What would you ask me?

  • Essential #7 for Creating Wealth and Success

    Essential #7 for Creating Wealth and Success

    Creating Wealth and Success with Millen Livis

    Do you remember that in Essential #4 for creating Wealth and Success, I talked about the importance of feeling rich and living wealthy regardless of your current financial situation?

    To feel rich and live wealthy, in addition to everything else that I shared with you earlier, you’ve got to take on the identity of a rich person! Start with thinking like a rich person and normalizing your new, wealthy reality and focus on experiences that confirm (to your own logical mind) that you already have wealth.

    Make feeling wealthy your new NORMAL.

    I encourage you to practice the following:

    1. Develop Confident Decisiveness – train yourself to take bold decisive actions and be responsible for the outcome.
    2. Be willing to take risk (calculated risk).
    3. Don’t be afraid of failures – see them as Valuable Growth Lessons. “Failures” are the bricks to your road to success. Many people “failed” their way to riches.
    4. Play to WIN, NOT not to lose (and be willing to leave the Good to welcome the Great).

    Fortune favors the bold.

    So, the Essential # 7 for Creating Wealth and Success is:

    Be Willing to Take Risk.

    You’ve got to be in a game and be OK with losing in order to learn and grow.Yes, you’ve got to PRACTICE taking decisive actions and be willing to take risk.

    Not ‘gambling’ type of risk! Mindful risk.

    And often this entails to be willing to leave the Good to welcome the Great.

    Here’re some examples from my own life when I did exactly that:

    • Invested in the stock market to raise money for the down-payment on our first house
    • Left my marriage… left everything behind – the gorgeous house, the comfort of 2 incomes…and re-starting my NEW LIFE in a tiny apartment near my job.
    • Left my well-paid and prestigious Wall Street career and went back to the Business School in my mid 40’s, then started my own investment company
    • Started my wealth mentoring business, put myself out there to support other women on the journey to wealth and freedom. My remarkable life didn’t happen overnight. My CHOICES shaped me and my life’s trajectory.

    And a few of these choices were risky. I was (for the most part) playing to WIN, NOT not to lose.  I was scared… often.

    Yet I was willing (and it was REALLY scary) to Leave the Good in order to Welcome the Great.

    Obviously, different people have different tolerance for risk. Be aware of your risk tolerance, respect it yet see if you can stretch it a bit…and a bit more…and more.

    Fortune favors the bold.

    The suggestions offered here may feel like scary or crazy… Keep practicing them anyway.

    Things will start shifting… your feelings will change, your energy will change….
    You will start creating and experiencing forward-moving momentum.

    Synchronizations and serendipitous experiences will be happening, you will start attracting good opportunities instead of repelling them.

    Risk is embedded in any business or investing decisions.

    Nothing is guaranteed in life (except taxes and death.)

    BUT it doesn’t mean that you should stay away from any endeavors that involve risk, not at all!

    Instead, you’ve got to:

    • Become aware of your particular risk tolerance and;
    • Take decisions that involve measured/mindful risk so that your possibility for success exceeds the possibility of loss
    • Your loss will not put you into despair and make you lose sleep
    • Develop courage and Be Willing to Leave the Good to Welcome the Great.

    Comment below and tell me how this Essential #7 lands on you…. What resonated? What did not?

    To your health wealth & Happiness

    Millen Livis - Wealth Architect and Financial Empowerment Mentor

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