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  • Essential #3 for Creating Wealth and Success

    Essential #3 for Creating Wealth and Success

    What you appreciate, appreciates.

    I am pretty sure you’ve heard the phrase “What you appreciate, appreciates” a few time already.

    However, today I want you to really hear me and TRULY embrace the power you have by being AWARE of your Focus of Attention.

    Because…WHAT YOU FOCUS ON, EXPANDS.

    That brings me to the Essential # 3 for Creating Wealth and Success:

    Use the Power of Your Attention


    Let me share with you briefly my personal story to demonstrate this power.

    After I resigned from my “comfortable” job to go to the business school, left my “comfortable” marriage and started my own investment business, I expected that my life will be more exciting, more meaningful, and more adventurous.

    Well, the beginning was too adventurous…. I felt like I was on a roller-coaster and then hit a wall. Everything seemed to be falling apart – from my health, to my business, to money and relationships.

    My critical mind was constantly bringing my attention to what was NOT working (e.g. business, health, relationship) and what I didn’t have (e.g. a house, family, money).

    ​​I felt like a total failure.

    You see, everybody goes through some crazy phases in life when it feels like everything is falling apart. That is the time to TRAIN your mind to focus on what works in your life and count your blessings!

    Awareness of YOUR ATTENTION is paramount if you want to start creating your life intentionally/consciously.

    Just like you use a remote control to switch a TV channel from something you don’t like, you can use your AWARENESS as your lever to direct your attention intentionally. And where your attention goes, energy flows.

    Now let’s look at this essential principal from a practical perspective as it pertains to managing your money and creating wealth.

    I am a big proponent of fiscal discipline. You’ve got to be a good custodian of your money if you want your money to “hang out” with you and in your world.

    However, fiscal discipline is NOT the same as frugality.

    For example, when you choose to save money, make sure you focus on what you say YES to, not what you say NO to.

    You want to make financial decisions from a place of abundance and respect for your money, not lack and fear of “not enough”.

    When you make a decision to put some money aside into your “peace of mind” fund (aka emergency fund),

    ​​are you making this decisions from a place of fullness (e.g. “YES, I CAN SAVE, I LOVE PAYING MYSELF FIRST and having the “peace of mind” fund”)

    OR

    from a place of lack and scarcity (“I don’t have enough to put money aside”, “my income is too small to save money”, “I have to save for the “rainy day””)?

    That’s an important question to ask yourself if you want to test your focus.

    If you focus on all the abundance you already have and what else you want to create in your life, then saving money becomes an empowering experience!

    This is an important distinction to remember.

    Let’s talk about ”The grass is always greener on the other side” syndrome – comparing yourself and your life with others, focusing on what “they” have and you do not.

    There is always someone out there who may have more of what you want – more wealth, more success, more love, more fame, whatever. And if you focus on what “they have and you do not”, YOU make yourself “LESS THAN THEM.”

    It adds stress, pressure, and triggers toxic “I’m not lucky/not enough” feelings….

    YOU sabotage yourself.

    What if you flip this and think about all the people who have less than you, who would love to have what you have – health, home, family, friends, etc.

    Remember that NOTHING is GUARANTEED in life – what you have NOW is not guaranteed forever.

    Bring your ATTENTION and ACKNOWLEDGE what you have NOW, and the progress you’ve made thus far. Then decide which areas of your life you want to up-level.

    Once you stop comparing yourself and your life with someone else’s (who may have more wealth and success right now), and intentionally use your attention to focus on what YOU HAVE at the moment in your life and what YOU CAN adjust (e.g. upgrade your skills, become more aware of your old beliefs and money patterns, etc.), you will release stress, feel better, and elevate your mental and emotional energy.

    THAT will create a rich ground for more opportunities and wealth in your life.

    There is a great Buddhist saying: “There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.”

    Gratitude is the way. Being in the Now is the way. Realizing how fortunate you are in so many ways… is the way.

    YOU CAN CHOOSE where you direct your attention. 

    YOU CAN CHOOSE what you give your energy to.

    YOUR ATTENTION DIRECTS YOUR ENERGY.

    What YOU SEE, IS.

    What YOU FOCUS ON, EXPANDS.

    To your Health, Wealth and Freedom!

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  • Essential #2 for Creating Wealth and Success

    Essential #2 for Creating Wealth and Success

     

    I want to share with you a true story that led me to a decision to include the Essential #2 into my list of principals for Creating Wealth and Success.

    I own a successful real estate business and some time ago had the following conversation with one of my clients, Kate, who is a young married professional woman who has problems paying her rent and bills in general.

    Kate: “You’re lucky, Millen. You’re wealthy, you don’t need to work, you have a nice car! You don’t understand how hard it is when you never have enough money. You don’t understand how it feels to be poor!”

    Me: ” Actually, Kate, I was in much worse situation than you have right now… more than once.
    I experienced being jobless and working for minimum wage jobs, being alone and depressed, broke and broken….

    I had to learn how to FEEL wealthy even when I didn’t have much on my bank account. I had to learn how to become a savvy manager of my money so that I will be able to pay my rent and bills…save and invest.

    I had to learn how to believe in myself, so I could eventually create a life I wanted to have.  So, it’s NOT luck. It’s the CHOICES that I made that led me to the life I have now.”

    And that brings me to the

    Essential #2 for Creating Wealth and Success: 

    Install and keep reinforcing supportive beliefs about yourself, money and wealth

    Let me go over the WHAT, the WHY and the HOW.

    WHAT are Beliefs?

    Repeatable thoughts, patterns of thinking, stories you continuously tell yourself when nobody else is listening….

    The domain of your beliefs is your Subconscious Mind. You create your experiences by the CHOICES you make, which are determined by what you REALLY think and feel, which is the realm of Subconscious Mind.

    When you were born, your subconscious mind was a blank slate… Have you noticed that little children have a natural sense of curiosity and excitement for life?

    And then the programming started… “You have to be careful”, “you have to have a corporate job or be a doctor/lawyer to make a good living”, “you have to work REALLY hard to make money”, “you need to marry a wealthy man to have financial security”, “you are not the entrepreneurial type”, “being wealthy is not in your cards”, blah, blah, blah….

    WHY it’s important…

    When you have ‘money blocks’ in a form of self-limiting BELIEFS around money, wealth and self-worth, you SEE the world THROUGH THESE FILTERS, through the filters of YOUR UNSUPPORTED BELIEFS!

    When you don’t believe that wealth is possible for you, you repel, don’t pay attention to, or dismiss the wealth-building opportunities when they show up in your life.

    Your beliefs about money, wealth, yourself, and what’s possible for you are pictured out in your life experiences and your financial situation.

    Your state of sub-consciousness is reflected in your experiences. And your state of sub-consciousness is determined by your deep beliefs and feelings….

    Yes, your experiences in life are affected by what you FEEL and THINK you deserve and can achieve. You only “see” the circumstances that confirm your beliefs.…

    THAT’s why it’s important to BE AWARE of your deep hidden beliefs and CHOOSE which ones you want to “install”, nurture, give energy to.

    HOW to Install Supportive Beliefs

    TRAIN your mind to acknowledge your successes, celebrate your WINS, become more intentional with your CHOICES, notice what works in your life, REINFORCE the behavior’s and beliefs that have helped you succeed in the past.

    Establish DAILY wealth practices: meditation, journaling, counting your wins and actively appreciating what you have now, going for your wealth walks and using affirmations, asking “What if…” and “Why I can have/be/do…?” questions, etc.

    If you don’t like where you currently are financially, you may ask yourself “What beliefs someone must have to manifest these experiences?” It’s the shortest and simplest way to uncover your hidden sabotaging beliefs.

    Then you can ask “What actions someone could take to change this situation?”

    You see, money is a special (metaphysical) mirror of your current values, thoughts, beliefs, and choices.

    For example, if you keep spending more money than you make and don’t grow your savings, you may have a belief that you cannot manage your money well.

    If you keep attracting clients who “cannot afford you”, you may have a hidden belief that your service is not really that valuable or that you are not “good enough” to charge your fees.

    You see how it works?

    Your beliefs are tightly connected to certain emotions.

    When you have supportive beliefs about yourself, you feel peaceful, uplifted, grateful, and joyful.
    When you have sabotaging beliefs, you feel discouraged, jealous, sad, angry, fearful, or ashamed.

    But don’t be afraid of experiencing “negative emotions”. Notice them…acknowledge them because negative emotions are your clues to the hidden beliefs that are NOT TRUE.

    P.S. Do you still live in a world of “surviving”, financially? Or feel that someone else is luckier than you?

    Are you READY to step into your NEW WAY OF BEING and START THRIVING – with your money, your relationships, your work, your health?

    THAT’s what I want for you…if YOU ARE READY to rock your world!

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    To your Health, Wealth and Freedom!

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