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  • #1 METHOD to Magnetize Wealth and Success with Ease

    #1 METHOD to Magnetize Wealth and Success with Ease

    How to Manifest Wealth and Success with Ease
    How to Manifest Wealth and Success with Ease

     

    Have you noticed how easy it is for you to focus on what’s missing or what’s not working in your life?

    Somehow, human brain is programmed to focus on what’s NOT working instead of what IS working. 

    And since what you focus on, expands, focusing on problems, scarcity and lack leads to perpetual worries, doubts, and fears, which, in turn, attract more of the same.

    Yet the simplest way to attract ‘good things’ is to focus on what “good things” you already have in your life…

    And the easiest yet profoundly powerful way to do this is to feel thankful and PRACTICE Gratitude.

    Yes, PRACTICE… continuously.

    Because GRATITUDE heals the wounds, uplifts, calms, softens, and inspires. 

    When you think about being grateful for something or someone, you instantly shift your energy to the inner wellbeing, even when the external circumstances are challenging.

    And then MAGIC happens! Because living in gratitude attracts opportunities and abundance.

     

    You might be thinking “It’s not that simple, Millen…”

    Yes, I hear you…

     

    When you go through a series of health or financial challenges, or a job loss, or a divorce… when money is tight and you cannot buy what you want, it’s easy to fall into habitual patterns of frustration, worries and fear.

    I fact, many people think that once they achieve financial abundance, business success, “ideal relationship, etc., THEN they will have a “reason” to be authentically grateful.

    NO, it’s NOT how it works!

     

    In order to receive what you want, you’ve got to first FEEL as if you already have it…

    You’ve got to FEEL that it’s coming your way…

    Yet don’t expect to experience something immediately after you ask for and imagine “it.”

    Instead, set an intention and you WILL eventually receive it.

    It’s also interesting to observe how we tend to overlook many things we can be grateful for right NOW simple because we’re accustomed to them!

    You already have them, so why focus on what you already have, right?

    Actually, wrong.

    That is EXACTLY what you’ve got to focus on and be grateful for.

    Remember that you are loved and blessed in so many ways….  

    Even when it seems like God (the Universe / Field) doesn’t have your back… when you feel lonely, crashed or broke… you still have a few things to be grateful for….

    Let me remind you some simple things that you may have forgotten to be grateful for that many people in the world may not have….

     

    • Peaceful country
    • Roof over your head
    • Electricity
    • Clean running water
    • Fresh air
    • Money
    • Food
    • Toilet at home
    • Family (and friends)
    • Access to doctors and hospitals
    • Access to the Internet
    • Clients you have, had, and will have
    • Sunshine
    • Rain

     

    You may not have ALL of these things but you do have most of them. Focus on that.

    NOTHING should be taken for granted.

    So, whatever your situation might be right now, don’t feel discouraged, embarrassed or guilty…. these emotions carry high negative charge.

    Instead, make a list of at least 10 things that you are grateful for…

    Focus on them… Use them as your catalyst to shift your perception and activate your ‘Attitude of Gratitude.’

    Count your blessings, dear… you have a few!

     

    As for me….

    I feel blessed and deeply grateful for all the abundance I’ve received in my life – people, experiences, and opportunities that enriched my life.

    I feel incredibly thankful for and humbled by the love I receive EVERY day from my husband, daughter, clients, and… God.

    And I feel grateful for you, dear reader!

     

    Thank you for taking the time to read my blog, for your intention to better yourself and your life.

    To express my appreciation, I want to GIFT you my new guide “How to Control Your Money, So It will NEVER Control You.”

    CLICK HERE to download it for FREE.

    Happy Thanksgiving to you and your loved ones!

     

     

     

     

    Millen Livis

  • 4 Common Mistakes People Make When Managing Financial Priorities and How to Avoid Them

    4 Common Mistakes People Make When Managing Financial Priorities and How to Avoid Them

    Do you want to be Financially Independent? Do you want to have more Freedom? More Choices? More Money?

    OK, these are rhetorical questions…. Of course you do!

    And what I’ve noticed is that there are two immediate mental reactions that most people have when they are asked these questions.

    Some say: “It will not happen to me because __________ (e.g. “I’m broke”, “I’m not good with money”, “I don’t have a right profession / business”, “I’m single”, “Wealth makes people greedy”, “I don’t know how”.)

    Others say: “What needs to happen so I have more Freedom, more Choices and more Money?” “What do I need to change? Learn? Do? How to Be?”

    While having a nice income, or a rental property, or a portfolio of stocks is great, creating financial independence is waaaaay bigger than choosing the right stocks, buying properties, or making money at your job or in your business!

    Financial Independence is about your way of being – taking choices that are congruent with your values and goals (financial and personal), having confidence and competence to manage your financial priorities so that the decisions you make get you closer and closer to your highest vision for life and work!

    And it’s also about creating multiple streams of income by using your skills and passions (business), your money and knowledge (investing), other people’s money and resources (leverage) or all of the above in order to have the lifestyle you dream about.

    There are many factors that play a role in how quickly you can become financially independent. And one of the most important factors is becoming really good at managing your financial priorities.

    This one factor allows some people to live free of financial worries and anxiety while others to feel like they have to slave for money…for the rest of their life.

    And this is true across different sociological and income groups!

    So, what common mistakes people make when it comes to managing financial priorities? And how you can avoid these mistakes and get well on your way to financial independence?

    Here’re some common mistakes that I’ve observed:

    1. Lack of Awareness about Core Values.

    When you’re not aware of what is REALLY important in your life, you act sporadically. You make yearly resolutions not to spend more money than you make, not to have more debt, not to buy more “stuff”….

    BUT then you get off track when you see a new shiny object like a designer dress or an exotic vacation offer, or _______ and you get your credit card out of your wallet and… get into debt again!

    Be clear about your Core Values.

    For example, if one of your core values is to have more freedom, more choices, more peace of mind – this awareness will help you avoid the financial temptations and make decisions that are congruent with your Core Values.

    1. Not Setting Intentions.

    When you don’t set your financial intentions, you create randomly, often from a place of fear, doubt, and powerlessness. Since you’re creating all the time, why not to be intentional about your creations?

    You want to have an emergency fund by a certain date? Set the intention!

    You want to grow your wealth by making strategic investments? Set the intention!

    You want to receive income from passive investments to support your desired lifestyle? Buy a new car? A house? Set an intention!

    Intentions direct energy. Intentions set in motion possibilities.

    Intentions direct experiences that you need to have so that your intentions become your reality.

    Setting the intentions is the way to leverage the infinite organizing power of the Universe.

    1. Focusing on Problems instead of Solutions.

    What you focus on, expands. You know that, right?

    So, when you focus on how you cannot afford to buy _________, or how you cannot invest in __________, or how unlucky you are because you don’t make enough money – you focus on problems instead of solutions.

    Choose to Focus on what you say YES TO when you manage your financial priorities!

    For example, you can ask yourself “what would need to happen so I’ll be able to _______?” “What can I do today, this week, this month to make more money? To pay off my debt AND save more? To invest and grow my wealth?”

    You can brainstorm different options, write them down, choose which ones excite you the most and take the first step…and the next…and the next.

    With the focus on solutions, you’ll be able to take inspired actions!

    And even small actions taken towards your desired financial results  will help you make better financial decisions.

    1. Not Living in Integrity with Your Financial Goals.

    You may know your core values and even set your intentions and financial goals. But if you don’t practice financial discipline, if you don’t live in a way that supports your financial goals, it’s unlikely that you become financially independent any time soon.

    Because knowing what you need to do is not enough!

    Implementing your knowledge, doing what needs to be done even if it’s not easy or uncomfortable – THAT shows your commitment and determination. 

    THAT will lead to results! Because “devil is in execution”, agree?

    And even if you made some financial mistakes in the past – it doesn’t matter! Because you are NOT your experiences!

    Managing your financial priorities well is a skill that you can attain and practice!  

    If you’re not where you want to be in your life, financially – it’s time to change.

    Manage your financial priorities in the ways that support your financial goals and core values.

    To Your Health,Wealth and Freedom!

    Millen

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  • 3 Myths About Financial Success

    3 Myths About Financial Success

    MYTH #3: HIGH EXPECTATIONS

    “This was such a stupid decision to leave your marriage… he is a good man and a provider…”

    “By this phase in your life, you should have had a large house with a swimming pool, a luxury car and a large bank account… instead you are divorced, live in a crappy apartment and don’t have a steady job!”

    “You live like a student and you’re in your forties… yet you have great education and tons of experience… What’s wrong with you?!”

    “By now your business should make tons of money… Maybe it’s not meant to be….”

    These are the comments I’ve heard from friends and family members over the years.

    I didn’t live up to their expectations…and, frankly, to my own…

    The expectations for myself – my personal life, financial success and business success – were adding more pressure and made me feel like a loser. Someone who wasted time and opportunities. Someone who had a high potential and failed.

    A few years forward: I remarried, developed a successful investment company, became financially independent and have a freedom to live where I want and do what I love….

    Expectations => Attachments

    I had to learn to surrender…find security in the wisdom of uncertainty… set  my intentions and let go of any attachments to the desired outcome…“stay in my lane” and not compare my life with others….

    And it’s NOT a “one day” decision. It’s an on-going process…of letting go… exhaling expectations and attachments to the outcome… and appreciating the present moment…acting in spite of doubts and fears…having faith.

    Look at nature…Different animals have different gestation period for carrying a baby. Different fruit trees have a completely different cycle of blossom. Nature doesn’t have “expectations”. It has its rhythm and intrinsic wisdom.

    If you set your intentions and manage to detach yourself from the ego-driven expectations for your financial success (while taking consistent actions and moving in the direction of your vision even if your beliefs are lagging) – you’ll allow the abundance to flow to, through and from you. Un-abstractedly. Easily.

    MYTH #2: HARD WORK

    “I found my purpose… I work hard. Even when I struggle – with my health or money – I push through.”

    “I give my business all my energy, money and my time. I push through, I sacrifice EVERYTHING to live my vision, my purpose!”

    It sounds good, right?

    WRONG!

    You emit energy that is either attractive or repelling.

    • When you’re in the “I work hard, damn it, I sacrifice my life” or “I need clients so badly” mental state – you are either in an energetic state of resentment or desperation.
    • When you chase after clients, you emit energy of neediness and exhaustion. It’s heavy. It’s not attractive. It’s not the energy people want to be around.
    • When you find JOY and FUN in your work and create from that place…
    • When you ALLOW yourself to be more playful, more at ease…
    • When you let your body rest and recharge if needed…
    • When you spend time in nature…meditate…experience whatever brings you sense of peace and joy…
    • When you take the time to “water your own garden”…

    You SHINE AS YOU and THAT is your ultimate purpose.

    Yes, in order to realize your vision and create wealth, you must put out consistent efforts, day after day.

    However, living your purpose DOES NOT REQUIRE SACRIFICE.

    STRUGGLE (aka HARD WORK) IS NOT a PREREQUISITE for SUCCESS.

    Do you know that the Universe has unlimited organizing power?!

    When you release energetic blocks and your body and mind are aligned with Abundance Consciousness, right opportunities and right people show up in your life… naturally and effortlessly.

    It’s a shift in the Way of Your Being. It’s a state of consciousness that attracts opportunities, money and happiness with effortless ease.

    Your high vibration energy is a true magnet of success, including financial success.

    MYTH #1: FINANCIAL SECURITY

    When I want something, I like to ask myself “What would need to happen so I have this?”

    So, my question to you today: “What would need to happen in your life so you’d feel financially secure?”

    Here’re some answers I heard from people:

    • “If I were making 6 figure salary, I would feel much more secure.”
    • “I will feel truly secure once I have $200,000 on my bank account.”
    • “Once my business will make 5-figure monthly, I’ll feel financially secure.”
    • “When my husband will find a job, I’ll feel so much more secure.”
    • “If I were married, I’d feel more financially secure.”

    All of these desires seem to be very valid sources of financial security…. Yet many people who make 6 figure salary, or have $200K on their bank account, or finally made 5-figure per month in their business, or have a partner who has a job…still feel insecure. Hell, many millionaires (“the stars”) feel financially insecure…

    WHY??!!

    The paradox is that SECURITY YOU’RE SEEKING LIES WITHIN.

    Here’s the evolution of your sense of security.

    When you were born, while a defenseless baby, you felt secure.

    Then at school or/and in your family, you were conditioned into conformity. You were compared to others…. Your unique qualities, talents and abilities were ignored or not appreciated. Your light was dimmed.

    And you so desperately wanted to be loved and acknowledged – by your parents, your teachers, your friends – that you started losing your uniqueness while trying to conform and to fit in.

    When we are shamed into conformity, we often feel confused, discouraged and “not worthy”….

    That’s when we start feeling insecurities and anguish; become self-critical and judgmental. That’s when we start feeling “not enough” – “not enough” to be loved, “not enough” to be successful, “not enough” to be wealthy.

    Self-criticism and self-sabotage get in the way of everything, including financial success. They destroy moneymaking abilities. They cause money dis-ease.

    Can you respect and love yourself in spite of personal adversities and mistakes you’ve made? In spite of your stupid choices, bad decisions and current financial struggles??

    CAN YOU?

    Because COMING TO LOVE IS YOUR ULTIMATE LIFE JOURNEY.

    YOU ARE WHAT YOU ARE.

    No need to act with an intention “to please others”, or to explain yourself, or to convince them that you’re worthy.

    LOVE YOURSELF JUST THE WAY YOU ARE – PERFECTLY IMPERFECT.

    SELF-LOVE will boost your confidence (and when you’re confident, you focus on solutions, not problems).

    HIGHER CONFIDENCE will boost your energy.

    HIGHER ENERGY will boost your security.

    MONEY FLOWS TO SECURITY and AWAY FROM INSECURITY.

    BY FEELING MORE SECURE, YOU WILL PROSPER!  

    If you believe that the state of your consciousness holds the key to your life experiences and want to finally EXPERIENCE FINANCIAL SECURITY, you’d love my 10-week Activate Effortless Wealth online personal group mentoring program.

    Find more details HERE.

    To Your Health, Wealth and Freedom!

    Millen

    P.S. contact me if you have questions about the Activate Effortless Wealth training