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  • What Really Matters in Life and How to Write Your Dreams into Existence

    What Really Matters in Life and How to Write Your Dreams into Existence

    I am fortunate to live very close to the ocean and a small lake. As part of my daily self-care routine, I love taking walks on the beach or around the lake every morning.

    These walks have become my walking meditation practice.

    I like to pay attention to and appreciate simple things: birds having a tribe gathering, children playing in the sand, people jogging and walking, and seeing footprints get washed away by the rhythmic movements of the ocean waves.

    During one of my walks, my mind zoomed in on the washed footprints on the sand, and I thought: That is a symbolic image of our lives.

    We, too, leave a footprint as a proof of our existence on the physical plane. Then one day our “footprint” will be erased in an instant and we’ll return back to our Divine Source.

    Suddenly, the brevity of our existence struck my awareness.

    I realized that all the worries and struggles, fears and pains, physical possessions, and material achievements that we identify with are not our identity but simply passing experiences along our journey.

    Then what remains?

    What is lasting?

    Love, grace, kindness, and joyful memories you share with others are the legacy that you can leave behind one day.

    If you are like me – ambitious and constantly driven by new and exciting ideas and projects – you are motivated by the desire to authentically serve others with your talents and skills.

    In my case, this passion and drive helped me achieve freedom and independence, and I am infinitely grateful for my life.

    Yet I often push myself and multitask to the point of exhaustion.

    I get caught up in busyness, which is a self-created illusion, and overlook the real priorities.

    In the instant that I was watching the footprints get washed away, however, I felt that I truly want to refocus on what really matters in life, especially in the midst of busyness.

    I want to focus on what makes me feel good: love, joy, grace, deep connections, and inner peace. And from THAT place, I will create my training masterpieces and make a bigger impact in the world.

    Today I want to share with you a fun exercise I like to do to plan an extraordinary year and invite you to try it too.

    Create a list of

    1. Your wins – all the successful outcomes or efforts, whether tangible or immaterial. This will help you focus on your successes and expand on them.
    2. Your pains – habits, beliefs, people and experiences that I want to leave behind. Create this list, then burn it as a symbol of releasing this energy from your life.
    3. Your lessons – feedback, experiences, people and beliefs that I want to expand and bring over to the next year. We tend to repeat the lessons that we haven’t learned. Awareness of these lessons will help you get to desired goals faster.
    4. Your goals – what do you want to FEEL and EXPERIENCE, CREATE, GIVE and RECEIVE. Clarity about your desires will help your subconscious to zoom in on your goals and manifest them.

    Take some time for yourself and write your dreams into existence!

    Have a magical New Year!

    Until then… STAY IN YOUR POWER!

     

     

    Millen

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  • Essential #7 for Creating Wealth and Success

    Essential #7 for Creating Wealth and Success

    Creating Wealth and Success with Millen Livis

    Do you remember that in Essential #4 for creating Wealth and Success, I talked about the importance of feeling rich and living wealthy regardless of your current financial situation?

    To feel rich and live wealthy, in addition to everything else that I shared with you earlier, you’ve got to take on the identity of a rich person! Start with thinking like a rich person and normalizing your new, wealthy reality and focus on experiences that confirm (to your own logical mind) that you already have wealth.

    Make feeling wealthy your new NORMAL.

    I encourage you to practice the following:

    1. Develop Confident Decisiveness – train yourself to take bold decisive actions and be responsible for the outcome.
    2. Be willing to take risk (calculated risk).
    3. Don’t be afraid of failures – see them as Valuable Growth Lessons. “Failures” are the bricks to your road to success. Many people “failed” their way to riches.
    4. Play to WIN, NOT not to lose (and be willing to leave the Good to welcome the Great).

    Fortune favors the bold.

    So, the Essential # 7 for Creating Wealth and Success is:

    Be Willing to Take Risk.

    You’ve got to be in a game and be OK with losing in order to learn and grow.Yes, you’ve got to PRACTICE taking decisive actions and be willing to take risk.

    Not ‘gambling’ type of risk! Mindful risk.

    And often this entails to be willing to leave the Good to welcome the Great.

    Here’re some examples from my own life when I did exactly that:

    • Invested in the stock market to raise money for the down-payment on our first house
    • Left my marriage… left everything behind – the gorgeous house, the comfort of 2 incomes…and re-starting my NEW LIFE in a tiny apartment near my job.
    • Left my well-paid and prestigious Wall Street career and went back to the Business School in my mid 40’s, then started my own investment company
    • Started my wealth mentoring business, put myself out there to support other women on the journey to wealth and freedom. My remarkable life didn’t happen overnight. My CHOICES shaped me and my life’s trajectory.

    And a few of these choices were risky. I was (for the most part) playing to WIN, NOT not to lose.  I was scared… often.

    Yet I was willing (and it was REALLY scary) to Leave the Good in order to Welcome the Great.

    Obviously, different people have different tolerance for risk. Be aware of your risk tolerance, respect it yet see if you can stretch it a bit…and a bit more…and more.

    Fortune favors the bold.

    The suggestions offered here may feel like scary or crazy… Keep practicing them anyway.

    Things will start shifting… your feelings will change, your energy will change….
    You will start creating and experiencing forward-moving momentum.

    Synchronizations and serendipitous experiences will be happening, you will start attracting good opportunities instead of repelling them.

    Risk is embedded in any business or investing decisions.

    Nothing is guaranteed in life (except taxes and death.)

    BUT it doesn’t mean that you should stay away from any endeavors that involve risk, not at all!

    Instead, you’ve got to:

    • Become aware of your particular risk tolerance and;
    • Take decisions that involve measured/mindful risk so that your possibility for success exceeds the possibility of loss
    • Your loss will not put you into despair and make you lose sleep
    • Develop courage and Be Willing to Leave the Good to Welcome the Great.

    Comment below and tell me how this Essential #7 lands on you…. What resonated? What did not?

    To your health wealth & Happiness

    Millen Livis - Wealth Architect and Financial Empowerment Mentor

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  • Essential #4 for Creating Wealth and Success

    Essential #4 for Creating Wealth and Success

    What does “Think, Feel, and LIVE Wealthy” mean to you?

    You might be surprised…but this is the essential #4 for creating Wealth and Success!

    Yep. That’s right. And before you whisper “phew, I know that!”, let me elaborate.

    For most people “living wealthy” means staying at 5-star hotels, going to fancy restaurants, wearing designer cloth, driving a luxury car, living in a gorgeous house….

    Guess what? 

    You don’t have to OWN it, you can SAMPLE it, then Create it!

    You can experience that which you’d like to have before owning it!

    Yes, SAMPLE YOUR DESIRES!

    You can go to car dealerships and ask to test-drive your favorite car.

    You can meet with a realtor and ask her to show you houses that you’d love to live in. 

    You can visit these houses, FOCUS ON YOUR DESIRE to live in such houses, get super excited and motivated, and start creating your imaginary Wealthy Life though feeling it, sampling it, and…yes, “faking” living it as if you already have it.

    What can you do to reinforce that? 

    The key is to affirm that you belong there and deserve that kind of wealth and abundance in your life.

    You possess powerful faculties – AWARENESS, IMAGINATION, ATTENTION, and INTENTION – that you can use to create your NEW WAY of BEING. 

    Your new way of being could be feeling and having more wealth, or achieving financial independence, or buying a new car, or moving into a new house, or feeling more at peace, successful and confident. 

    So, what do you think about an idea that you can choose to think, feel and act abundantly to start creating financial wealth?

    Frankly, I used to make fun of notorious “fake it until you make it” statement. 

    But guess what? 

    It works. 

    Let me share one examples from my own life. 

    When we used to live in New York, we would come to the Winter Garden at the World Financial Center around Christmas time, look at the beautiful view on the river, the yachts at the marina, the Christmas tree, the ambiance of wealth and success. 

    And I would imagine how cool it could be to work here. To be in this environment, this gorgeous place…. 

    Guess what?! 

    A couple of years later, I got a job with a company in this very building and we had amazing Christmas parties in this exact place, the Winter Garden!

    Coincidence? I don’t think so. 

    So, how does “fake it until you make it” work? 

    You can put yourself in a state of abundance, fullness, and wholeness by using your 

    –        awareness (e.g. “I am creating a new way of being), 
    –        physiology (e.g. abdominal breathing, adjusting your posture, relaxing your facial muscles and shoulders, eye contact, smiling,) 
    –        psychology (e.g. shifting your perception about your current situation, focusing on and appreciating what you have, etc.), 

    and your life experiences will change.

    If you’ve been struggling financially, most likely you’ve been blocked by your old conditioning that keeps you focusing on what’s missing, what’s not working… 

    If you PRACTICE looking, thinking, and acting abundantly, you’ll shift your attention, up level your energetic vibration, and begin to FEEL differently, which will start attracting new opportunities into your life.

    And one more thing. The way you look – your outfit, your posture, your hair and facial expression – conveys your physiological and psychological states and your energy. 

    And people feel your energy without exchanging a single word with you. And most importantly, looking good feels good! 

    When you FEEL GOOD, YOU LOOK GOOD, and YOU DO GOOD.

    Wear clothes that make YOU feel prosperous, confident, cool (and that means different things for different people)! 

    De-clutter your wardrobe from the old and unattractive stuff – only wear clothes and colors that reflect where you want to be not where you have been. 

    And it doesn’t have to be super expansive stuff either – just something that makes YOU FEEL GOOD.

    Follow your “FEEL GOOD” compass!  

    Think, Feel, and Live Wealthy.

    Deep transformations require patience and practice.

    The suggestions offered here may feel like fake for some time…. Keep practicing anyway, keep training your mind without attachments. And have fun with it! 

    Things will start shifting, your feelings will change, your energy will change, and you will start attracting amazing opportunities instead of repelling them.

    I’d love to hear from you! Hit the reply and let me know what you think about the Essential #4.
    What resonates with you? What does not?

    Until Next time…STAY EMPOWERED.

    To your Health, Wealth, and Freedom!

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