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Essential #8 for Creating Wealth and Success

Many people were taught that once you get clear on what you desire and align your beliefs with your desires, then you can relax…it will come to you, no need to be in the “arena”….

At least that’s what many LOA mindset coaches and seminars still teach.

Some religious and New Age manifesters get so hyped about the metaphysical, spiritual aspects of our existence that they ONLY rely on and wait for God to take care of them.

I’ve met a few spiritual coaches and religious women who felt that they don’t need to do anything to live the life of their dreams, everything will be taken care of….

They ‘outsourced’ their financial responsibility to the Higher Power until…they faced serious financial challenges.

I had a client who was a pastor. When things were good, she was riding high, investing in her church, spending money on cars and furniture…. Everything was going fabulous. The only problem was that she didn’t have any savings….

When the US economy tanked in 2009 and her church was not able to support her lifestyle, she got really discouraged and “outsourced” her financial responsibility to…God.

She waited… hoping and praying…until she and her family lost their home.

Very sad.

Obviously, it’s an extreme.

And there is another extreme.

I am talking about the ‘old school’ of making a living and receiving.

I don’t know about you but I heard from my parents again and again that “hard work and struggle are to be expected in order to succeed in life.”

People on this other end of the beliefs’ spectrum are focused on HOW more than anything else and often get paralyzed by the HOW conundrum.

These folks assume that a “survival mode” is to be expected, and often feel exhausted and overwhelmed by their endless To-Do list.

I trust YOU realize that you’ve got to have a happy medium.

You must do what you can with what you’ve got at the moment, because the Universe will not do it for you…it will do it WITH you!

You can thrive in the physical world as well as apply the spiritual principals like “Thoughts create things” and “What you focus on, expands.”
And that brings us to the

Essential #8 for Creating Wealth and Success:

Be Open to RECEIVE Wealth and Abundance.

So, what needs to take place for you to RECEIVE Financial Wealth?

For most people RECEIVING Financial Wealth requires the following 5 steps:

1. Make a Decision and Commit to it wholeheartedly.

In other words, you must first decide that you TRULY want to live prosperously and commit to it.

Face it…….a few times in the past you said ‘I want to make more money; I want to be wealthy”!

Yet not much changed…. YES?

You must be sick and tired of your OLD STORY, of the small and powerless version of you…

You’ve got to get inspired and energized by your desires, your dream life. That’s why I emphasize the commitment to yourself.

2. Manage any resistance that may come up.

Resistance often happens once you start making changes. It may show up in self-doubts, fear, procrastination, anxiety, self-criticism…. The key is not letting your resistance derail or stop you…. You’ve got to keep going.

3. Take Action and do what you can with what you’ve got at the moment.

You may need to upgrade your skills, or get a new job, or change your money habits, or get a coach, or meditate and exercise daily, etc. Don’t wait for SOME day – baby steps in the right direction will create a forward-moving momentum in your life. THAT is how you leap forward!

4. You must GIVE in order to RECEIVE.

Giving is a form of action when you apply your talents, knowledge and experience to make impact in the world and, in the process, receive the financial reward. The bigger the impact of your actions, the bigger the reward.

5. Expand your Capacity to RECEIVE.

Some people have inner blocks that prevent them from receiving wealth and abundance. They lack the capacity to RECEIVE.

These folks have been conditioned (through family, religious or cultural programming) to give yet have challenges with receiving.

When they receive money, they feel that they need to spend or give it away.
They don’t feel that they deserve to be wealthy.

Or they simply don’t feel that it’s possible for them to be wealthy – even when they get money, they assume that it will not last.

Some don’t believe that anyone will be willing to pay them for their services. They don’t feel that they are good enough….

And sadly, many link their perception of self-worth to ‘having’ or ‘not having’ money. These feelings trigger such emotions as sadness, fear, gilt, shame….

If ‘having’ or ‘not having’ money is linked to your perception of self-worth and confidence – you will experience a continuous roller coaster and you will feel defeated and weak.

You must internalize your true specialness – your divine specialness, something that you don’t need to show, to prove or to defend.

And coming from that place, you can choose to see money as a spiritual mirror and driving force of your creativity.

This will help you see everything in a better perspective and become more grounded and successful.

One more thing about expanding your capacity to receive…

Practice ALLOWING instead of chasing and forcing.

Once you OPEN YOUR MIND AND HEART TO THE POSSIBILITY that YOU CAN co-create whatever you want in your life, abundance will flow to, through, and from you naturally.

Don’t outsource your well-being to anyone or anything. YOU are the captain of your life.

What do you think about this essential #8? Does it resonate with you? Hit the reply and let me know!

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November 8, 2018
Essential #6 for Creating Wealth and Success

It’s been said that “what you want, wants you.” There is an ‘acorn’ seed inside you that wants to emerge.

The challenge is to FEEL and ACT congruent with your desires BEFORE you receive and experience them in a physical form.

While your beliefs and feelings exert a very powerful force in your life, they
don’t fully determine what you can or cannot receive because there is another factor that determines your outcome – ACTION.

The Essential#6 for Creating Wealth and Success is
ACT Congruent with Your Desires and Never Give Up on Your Dreams.

It has been my experience that you can receive abundance and wealth even before you fully believe in yourself and your vision, even before you believe it’s possible for you.

You don’t have to be “fearless and doubtless” to act on your desires. You can choose to take bold actions to achieve your vision, which then will activate the feeling and generate the energy necessary to make it happen.

You can LEAD with Action.

I did it a few times in my life.

When I was looking for my first Wall Street job.
When I founded my investment company.
When I made a decision to become financially independent.
When I published my first book.

I felt fear. I had doubts. My beliefs were lagging….
BUT I didn’t let the fears and doubts stop me from taking actions.

Fear is one of the main reasons that stops people from taking action. Many are afraid “to take risk”, “lose it all”, “not being able to handle it”, “not having the know-how”, “not being ready”, “becoming homeless”…

The main underlying fear is fear of failure. Many people feel that if they ‘fail’, they will be judged, rejected, not respected, not loved….

THAT is the guaranteed way to live your life with regrets. The only way to fail is not even try. If you act and it doesn’t work the way you expected, you’ll learn, adjust your course, and keep going until you find what works.

THAT IS THE ROAD TO MASTERY.

Never give up on your vision, even if nobody else believes in it but you.

Be Unstoppable. You are a powerhouse of infinite possibilities.

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October 29, 2018
Essential #5 for Creating Wealth and Success
Do you believe that the most authentic way to create wealth in your life is by helping other people have more of what they want?

I like the expression “authentic money”. That’s the money you make by authentic self-expression, by “doing” you. LOL

That’s the wealth you create by being authentically you – using your natural talents, skills, and experiences while making a difference in others’ lives.

And that’s the Essential #5 for Creating Wealth and Success:

Make a Difference, Enrich the Lives of Others.

People who offer value
- by solving or helping solve work / health / relationship / career / financial problems, or
- by helping others achieve their goals faster and easier, or
- by helping people feel good about themselves and their lives
get rewarded for enriching the lives of others.

Would you agree?

Names that come to mind are Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Tony Robbins…

So, it is really important to become aware of the kind of problems you can help people solve…or joyful / fun experiences you can help them have.

I love the quote by Neale Donald Walsch: “Your job is to help others get to where you are. Why do you suppose you know the terrain so well?”

People are willing to pay for enriching their lives – reducing/removing painful experiences, or having more joy and fun in their lives.

Also, I believe that you’ve got to be willing to GIVE first, BEFORE you start RECEIVING.

There are two extreme categories of people who offer services.

The first extreme group is the “Eternal Givers”. These people give, and give, and give….

They are afraid to over-charge, they are worried that nobody will buy from them because it might be “too expensive” for others, so they often charge NOTHING or waaaay below the offered value.

The Eternal Givers undervalue their services immensely and do a real disservice to their potential clients. WHY?

Because to stay in business, you’ve got to make profit. Period. End of story.

The second extreme group, the “Hard Receivers”, are people who get impatient with the wealth creation process and only focus on the receiving part. They feel that their time is too valuable to offer ANY services without charging…a lot.

It is my belief that there are no shortcuts in this principle. You’ve got to keep offering value first – willingly and joyfully – until you create an energetic momentum and get in the flow of abundance.

Most successful and wealthy people went through growth and maturing phases in their businesses before they became “rich and powerful.” Many were offering value for a long time before they started receiving the financial windfall.

The higher the perceived value of your offerings and the more lives you touch, the higher your financial and personal reward will be.

And it will happen on Divine time, which may be different from your expected time-frame. So, don’t get discouraged if you are still growing and building the momentum.

OK, one more important awareness that I want to mention here:

Pay attention to what place you offer your services from.

Is your main focus to make 5-6 figure per month?

Are you focused mostly on enriching yourself, becoming famous, and have more financial wealth for yourself?

Or you really desire to add TRUE value to the lives of others?

Really excited to help people solve their problems, become more confident, competent and successful while creating the life you want to have for yourself?

One more thing….

If you experience resistance to your work, there could be a couple of reasons:
1. Universe is testing your commitment and resilience,
2. The work that you do does not support the Universal direction of expansion – for yourself and/or others.
Does it make sense?

What do you think about this essential? I’d love to hear from you!

Leave a comment below and let me know what you think about the Essential #5.

Until Next time…STAY EMPOWERED.

To your Health, Wealth and Freedom!

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October 17, 2018
Essential #4 for Creating Wealth and Success

What does “Think, Feel, and LIVE Wealthy” mean to you?

You might be surprised…but this is the essential #4 for creating Wealth and Success!

Yep. That’s right. And before you whisper “phew, I know that!”, let me elaborate.

For most people “living wealthy” means staying at 5-star hotels, going to fancy restaurants, wearing designer cloth, driving a luxury car, living in a gorgeous house….

Guess what?

You don’t have to OWN it, you can SAMPLE it, then Create it!

You can experience that which you’d like to have before owning it!

Yes, SAMPLE YOUR DESIRES!

You can go to car dealerships and ask to test-drive your favorite car.

You can meet with a realtor and ask her to show you houses that you’d love to live in.

You can visit these houses, FOCUS ON YOUR DESIRE to live in such houses, get super excited and motivated, and start creating your imaginary Wealthy Life though feeling it, sampling it, and…yes, “faking” living it as if you already have it.

What can you do to reinforce that?

The key is to affirm that you belong there and deserve that kind of wealth and abundance in your life.

You possess powerful faculties – AWARENESS, IMAGINATION, ATTENTION, and INTENTION – that you can use to create your NEW WAY of BEING.

Your new way of being could be feeling and having more wealth, or achieving financial independence, or buying a new car, or moving into a new house, or feeling more at peace, successful and confident.

So, what do you think about an idea that you can choose to think, feel and act abundantly to start creating financial wealth?

Frankly, I used to make fun of notorious “fake it until you make it” statement.

But guess what?

It works.

Let me share one examples from my own life.

When we used to live in New York, we would come to the Winter Garden at the World Financial Center around Christmas time, look at the beautiful view on the river, the yachts at the marina, the Christmas tree, the ambiance of wealth and success.

And I would imagine how cool it could be to work here. To be in this environment, this gorgeous place….

Guess what?!

A couple of years later, I got a job with a company in this very building and we had amazing Christmas parties in this exact place, the Winter Garden!

Coincidence? I don’t think so.

So, how does “fake it until you make it” work?

You can put yourself in a state of abundance, fullness, and wholeness by using your

–        awareness (e.g. “I am creating a new way of being”),
–        physiology (e.g. abdominal breathing, adjusting your posture, relaxing your facial muscles and shoulders, eye contact, smiling,)
–        psychology (e.g. shifting your perception about your current situation, focusing on and appreciating what you have, etc.),

and your life experiences will change.

If you’ve been struggling financially, most likely you’ve been blocked by your old conditioning that keeps you focusing on what’s missing, what’s not working…

If you PRACTICE looking, thinking, and acting abundantly, you’ll shift your attention, up level your energetic vibration, and begin to FEEL differently, which will start attracting new opportunities into your life.

And one more thing. The way you look – your outfit, your posture, your hair and facial expression – conveys your physiological and psychological states and your energy.

And people feel your energy without exchanging a single word with you. And most importantly, looking good feels good!

When you FEEL GOOD, YOU LOOK GOOD, and YOU DO GOOD.

Wear clothes that make YOU feel prosperous, confident, cool (and that means different things for different people)!

De-clutter your wardrobe from the old and unattractive stuff – only wear clothes and colors that reflect where you want to be not where you have been.

And it doesn’t have to be super expansive stuff either – just something that makes YOU FEEL GOOD.

Follow your “FEEL GOOD” compass!

Think, Feel, and Live Wealthy.

Deep transformations require patience and practice.

The suggestions offered here may feel like fake for some time…. Keep practicing anyway, keep training your mind without attachments. And have fun with it!

Things will start shifting, your feelings will change, your energy will change, and you will start attracting amazing opportunities instead of repelling them.

I’d love to hear from you! Hit the reply and let me know what you think about the Essential #4.
What resonates with you? What does not?

Until Next time…STAY EMPOWERED.

To your Health, Wealth, and Freedom!

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October 11, 2018
Essential #3 for Creating Wealth and Success

What you appreciate, appreciates.

I am pretty sure you’ve heard the phrase “What you appreciate, appreciates” a few time already.

However, today I want you to really hear me and TRULY embrace the power you have by being AWARE of your Focus of Attention.

Because…WHAT YOU FOCUS ON, EXPANDS.

That brings me to the Essential # 3 for Creating Wealth and Success:

Use the Power of Your Attention

Let me share with you briefly my personal story to demonstrate this power.

After I resigned from my “comfortable” job to go to the business school, left my “comfortable” marriage and started my own investment business, I expected that my life will be more exciting, more meaningful, and more adventurous.

Well, the beginning was too adventurous…. I felt like I was on a roller-coaster and then hit a wall. Everything seemed to be falling apart – from my health, to my business, to money and relationships.

My critical mind was constantly bringing my attention to what was NOT working (e.g. business, health, relationship) and what I didn’t have (e.g. a house, family, money).

I felt like a total failure.

You see, everybody goes through some crazy phases in life when it feels like everything is falling apart. That is the time to TRAIN your mind to focus on what works in your life and count your blessings!

Awareness of YOUR ATTENTION is paramount if you want to start creating your life intentionally/consciously.

Just like you use a remote control to switch a TV channel from something you don’t like, you can use your AWARENESS as your lever to direct your attention intentionally. And where your attention goes, energy flows.

Now let’s look at this essential principal from a practical perspective as it pertains to managing your money and creating wealth.

I am a big proponent of fiscal discipline. You’ve got to be a good custodian of your money if you want your money to “hang out” with you and in your world.

However, fiscal discipline is NOT the same as frugality.

For example, when you choose to save money, make sure you focus on what you say YES to, not what you say NO to.

You want to make financial decisions from a place of abundance and respect for your money, not lack and fear of “not enough”.

When you make a decision to put some money aside into your “peace of mind” fund (aka emergency fund),

are you making this decisions from a place of fullness (e.g. “YES, I CAN SAVE, I LOVE PAYING MYSELF FIRST and having the “peace of mind” fund”)

OR

from a place of lack and scarcity (“I don’t have enough to put money aside”, “my income is too small to save money”, “I have to save for the “rainy day””)?

That’s an important question to ask yourself if you want to test your focus.

If you focus on all the abundance you already have and what else you want to create in your life, then saving money becomes an empowering experience!

This is an important distinction to remember.

Let’s talk about ”The grass is always greener on the other side” syndrome – comparing yourself and your life with others, focusing on what “they” have and you do not.

There is always someone out there who may have more of what you want – more wealth, more success, more love, more fame, whatever. And if you focus on what “they have and you do not”, YOU make yourself “LESS THAN THEM.”

It adds stress, pressure, and triggers toxic “I’m not lucky/not enough” feelings….

YOU sabotage yourself.

What if you flip this and think about all the people who have less than you, who would love to have what you have – health, home, family, friends, etc.

Remember that NOTHING is GUARANTEED in life – what you have NOW is not guaranteed forever.

Bring your ATTENTION and ACKNOWLEDGE what you have NOW, and the progress you’ve made thus far. Then decide which areas of your life you want to up-level.

Once you stop comparing yourself and your life with someone else’s (who may have more wealth and success right now), and intentionally use your attention to focus on what YOU HAVE at the moment in your life and what YOU CAN adjust (e.g. upgrade your skills, become more aware of your old beliefs and money patterns, etc.), you will release stress, feel better, and elevate your mental and emotional energy.

THAT will create a rich ground for more opportunities and wealth in your life.

There is a great Buddhist saying: “There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.”

Gratitude is the way. Being in the Now is the way. Realizing how fortunate you are in so many ways… is the way.

YOU CAN CHOOSE where you direct your attention.

YOU CAN CHOOSE what you give your energy to.

YOUR ATTENTION DIRECTS YOUR ENERGY.

What YOU SEE, IS.

What YOU FOCUS ON, EXPANDS.

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October 4, 2018
Essential #2 for Creating Wealth and Success

I want to share with you a true story that led me to a decision to include the Essential #2 into my list of principals for Creating Wealth and Success.

I own a successful real estate business and some time ago had the following conversation with one of my clients, Kate, who is a young married professional woman who has problems paying her rent and bills in general.

Kate: “You’re lucky, Millen. You’re wealthy, you don’t need to work, you have a nice car! You don’t understand how hard it is when you never have enough money. You don’t understand how it feels to be poor!”

Me: ” Actually, Kate, I was in much worse situation than you have right now… more than once.
I experienced being jobless and working for minimum wage jobs, being alone and depressed, broke and broken….

I had to learn how to FEEL wealthy even when I didn’t have much on my bank account. I had to learn how to become a savvy manager of my money so that I will be able to pay my rent and bills…save and invest.

I had to learn how to believe in myself, so I could eventually create a life I wanted to have. So, it’s NOT luck. It’s the CHOICES that I made that led me to the life I have now.”

And that brings me to the

Essential #2 for Creating Wealth and Success:

Install and keep reinforcing supportive beliefs about yourself, money and wealth

Let me go over the WHAT, the WHY and the HOW.

WHAT are Beliefs?

Repeatable thoughts, patterns of thinking, stories you continuously tell yourself when nobody else is listening….

The domain of your beliefs is your Subconscious Mind. You create your experiences by the CHOICES you make, which are determined by what you REALLY think and feel, which is the realm of Subconscious Mind.

When you were born, your subconscious mind was a blank slate… Have you noticed that little children have a natural sense of curiosity and excitement for life?

And then the programming started… “You have to be careful”, “you have to have a corporate job or be a doctor/lawyer to make a good living”, “you have to work REALLY hard to make money”, “you need to marry a wealthy man to have financial security”, “you are not the entrepreneurial type”, “being wealthy is not in your cards”, blah, blah, blah….

WHY it’s important…

When you have ‘money blocks’ in a form of self-limiting BELIEFS around money, wealth and self-worth, you SEE the world THROUGH THESE FILTERS, through the filters of YOUR UNSUPPORTED BELIEFS!

When you don’t believe that wealth is possible for you, you repel, don’t pay attention to, or dismiss the wealth-building opportunities when they show up in your life.

Your beliefs about money, wealth, yourself, and what’s possible for you are pictured out in your life experiences and your financial situation.

Your state of sub-consciousness is reflected in your experiences. And your state of sub-consciousness is determined by your deep beliefs and feelings….

Yes, your experiences in life are affected by what you FEEL and THINK you deserve and can achieve. You only “see” the circumstances that confirm your beliefs.…

THAT’s why it’s important to BE AWARE of your deep hidden beliefs and CHOOSE which ones you want to “install”, nurture, give energy to.

HOW to Install Supportive Beliefs

TRAIN your mind to acknowledge your successes, celebrate your WINS, become more intentional with your CHOICES, notice what works in your life, REINFORCE the behavior’s and beliefs that have helped you succeed in the past.

Establish DAILY wealth practices: meditation, journaling, counting your wins and actively appreciating what you have now, going for your wealth walks and using affirmations, asking “What if…” and “Why I can have/be/do…?” questions, etc.

If you don’t like where you currently are financially, you may ask yourself “What beliefs someone must have to manifest these experiences?” It’s the shortest and simplest way to uncover your hidden sabotaging beliefs.

Then you can ask “What actions someone could take to change this situation?”

You see, money is a special (metaphysical) mirror of your current values, thoughts, beliefs, and choices.

For example, if you keep spending more money than you make and don’t grow your savings, you may have a belief that you cannot manage your money well.

If you keep attracting clients who “cannot afford you”, you may have a hidden belief that your service is not really that valuable or that you are not “good enough” to charge your fees.

You see how it works?

Your beliefs are tightly connected to certain emotions.

When you have supportive beliefs about yourself, you feel peaceful, uplifted, grateful, and joyful.
When you have sabotaging beliefs, you feel discouraged, jealous, sad, angry, fearful, or ashamed.

But don’t be afraid of experiencing “negative emotions”. Notice them…acknowledge them because negative emotions are your clues to the hidden beliefs that are NOT TRUE.

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September 27, 2018