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  • 7 Steps to Regain Control Over Your Money: Step #5 – Pay Yourself First

    7 Steps to Regain Control Over Your Money: Step #5 – Pay Yourself First

    In step #4 we talked about tracking your money, remember?

    If you don’t know where your money goes, if you don’t have ANY mechanism (call it budget, call it a money tracker, call it whatever) – you don’t have control over your money. Money controls you!

    You may feel that you have to make more and more money to live.

    Yes?

    What if you could spend less so you won’t need to work more to make more?

    And if you feel that you’ve already trimmed your budget to the bare minimum, then it’s possible that it’s time to look for an additional source of income.

    Ok, that was a quick reminder of key #4 – Track Your Money

    Now the next, step #5, is to Pay Yourself First.

    There’re THREE Aspects in this step:

    1. Pay Yourself First

    So, once you figure out how you can better control your optional spending, your unnecessary expenses (your “wants”), the next important money habit to develop is to pay yourself before you pay anyone else!

    For many people, a good way to start saving regularly is to have a small amount transferred automatically from paycheck to a savings account.

    In other words, have some savings automatically set aside!

    If you don’t see it, you don’t miss it.

    How much can you set aside?

    The common suggestion is between 5 and 10 percent of your gross annual income.

    Of course, this can be much harder than it sounds.

    So, if you’re currently living paycheck to paycheck without clear opportunity to increase your income in the near future, begin by paying yourself with WHAT YOU CAN now. It could be one percent of your income, or $20, $50, $100.

    ANYTHING is better than nothing. Train yourself to allocate consistent contributions toward your savings. That’s the goal here.

    The next question: what is the purpose of these savings?

    Here are a couple of suggestions:

    2. Maintain an Emergency or “Peace of Mind Fund”

    Before you commit your newfound savings to ANY investments (ALL investments involve risk), make sure you have at least three to six months’ worth of your lifestyle expenses saved in an emergency (aka peace of mind) fund.

    Life happens to all of us; cars need repairs, houses need maintenance, medical emergencies, or other unforeseen circumstances.

    Keeping your emergency fund liquid will ensure that you don’t have to panic and sell your investments when their prices are down, and guarantees that you can always get to your money quickly.

    If you have trouble deciding how much you need to keep on hand, begin by considering the standard expenses you have in a month.

    If you have dependents (e.g. kids, parents, etc.), you’ll want to keep more money in your emergency fund to offset the greater risk.

    Once you fill your emergency fund, you can redirect money to your investments.

    3. Give yourself an allowance

    Here’s the fun part. Once you get to the point that your basic expenses and savings needs are met, you can decide how much money you want to spend guilt-free on anything you want (like shopping, eating out or entertainment).

    You and your spouse can have that amount in cash each month but when the money runs out, it’s gone until the following month.

    Anything you don’t spend can be carried over.

    This may add some fun and money flexibility into your relationship because neither of you can question how the other spends their allowance.

    Leave a comment and let me know what resonated with you and what you want to implement into your life right away.

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  • 7 Steps to Regain Control Over Your Money:  Step #1 – Declutter your environments

    7 Steps to Regain Control Over Your Money: Step #1 – Declutter your environments

    7 Steps to regain control over your money

    Let’s get tactical and discuss the steps to regain control over your money.

    Having the right environments is super important. That’s why you hear a lot about decluttering.

    If you live in a home that is filled with clothes that you don’t wear and don’t like, boxes with magazines and souvenirs, pieces of furniture that don’t add anything to the comfort of your physical space, YOU CAN change it!

    If you don’t have an environment that supports what you want to think, feel, createand experience, remind yourself that YOU CAN change it.

    If you have a relationship that doesn’t make you feel supported, loved, and appreciated, that doesn’t spark joy in you – YOU CAN change it.

    If you feel that you got yourself into a “money prison” because of accumulated  debt, or unhealthy spending habits, or arguing with your partner about excessive spending and feeling insecure about your financial future – YOU CAN change it too!

    You can CHOOSE to be clear and intentional with your choices and change what’s not working for you.

    You can move away or towards a different environment, or you can create a new energy in your current environment.

    And whatever you want to change, start changing NOW by letting go of what’s not working for YOU!

    You want to make a big leap? Great, go for it!

    Feel like starting with small changes? Awesome!  Baby steps are great! It’s how you implement BIG changes without feeling overwhelmed.

    Life is what you choose to make of it.  ​​Whether it’s your physical environment, relationship, work, or money.

    Living with your focus on past mistakes drains your energy, deflates your confidence, blocks the flow of wealth, joy, and new opportunities in your life!

    That’s why decluttering your mental space is super important!

    I recall the time in my life when I felt that I must change my environments – my work, my marriage, my financial habits (e.g. shopping therapy) – because I felt empty inside…I felt just existing, going through life instead of living it. 

    BUT I was afraid to change.

    “What if”, “not yet”, and “not now” thinking kept me stuck in the environments that felt like desert. Unfortunately, I didn’t have a support system at that time.

    My FEAR of “not having enough”, not being able to support myself, feeling financially insecure if I leave my marriage, kept me in a prison of my own making for years.

    Until one day…I decided to change.

    First, I asked myself “What is the worst thing that may happen?” Once I reconciled with the answer to this question, fear of consequences couldn’t keep me hostage anymore.

    Then I asked “Why it may not be true that I cannot be financially secure without a man?” And the answers started pouring from my heart onto my journal.

    And then…I asked “What needs to happen NOW so that I feel more ease, joy, and excitement about my life?” And the answer was clear and loud…

    DARE TO CHANGE.

    If you tolerate environments that make you feel overwhelmed, not capable, not supported; the environments that deflate your confidence and sense of personal power – don’ wait for a better time. Or better circumstances. Or a “prince charming” to save you.   

    DO NOT WAIT TO BE SAVED.   YOU ARE YOUR SAVER.

    Change might challenge you. You might need to juggle some things and make a few adjustments…

    BUT it’s possible. And often necessary.

    So that you step into your full power. Get in control of your money. Charge of your financial destiny.

    And the first step is to attend to your environments and declutter your space.

    Next I’ll share the next step to regain control over your money.

     

     

     

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  • Essential #7 for Creating Wealth and Success

    Essential #7 for Creating Wealth and Success

    Creating Wealth and Success with Millen Livis

    Do you remember that in Essential #4 for creating Wealth and Success, I talked about the importance of feeling rich and living wealthy regardless of your current financial situation?

    To feel rich and live wealthy, in addition to everything else that I shared with you earlier, you’ve got to take on the identity of a rich person! Start with thinking like a rich person and normalizing your new, wealthy reality and focus on experiences that confirm (to your own logical mind) that you already have wealth.

    Make feeling wealthy your new NORMAL.

    I encourage you to practice the following:

    1. Develop Confident Decisiveness – train yourself to take bold decisive actions and be responsible for the outcome.
    2. Be willing to take risk (calculated risk).
    3. Don’t be afraid of failures – see them as Valuable Growth Lessons. “Failures” are the bricks to your road to success. Many people “failed” their way to riches.
    4. Play to WIN, NOT not to lose (and be willing to leave the Good to welcome the Great).

    Fortune favors the bold.

    So, the Essential # 7 for Creating Wealth and Success is:

    Be Willing to Take Risk.

    You’ve got to be in a game and be OK with losing in order to learn and grow.Yes, you’ve got to PRACTICE taking decisive actions and be willing to take risk.

    Not ‘gambling’ type of risk! Mindful risk.

    And often this entails to be willing to leave the Good to welcome the Great.

    Here’re some examples from my own life when I did exactly that:

    • Invested in the stock market to raise money for the down-payment on our first house
    • Left my marriage… left everything behind – the gorgeous house, the comfort of 2 incomes…and re-starting my NEW LIFE in a tiny apartment near my job.
    • Left my well-paid and prestigious Wall Street career and went back to the Business School in my mid 40’s, then started my own investment company
    • Started my wealth mentoring business, put myself out there to support other women on the journey to wealth and freedom. My remarkable life didn’t happen overnight. My CHOICES shaped me and my life’s trajectory.

    And a few of these choices were risky. I was (for the most part) playing to WIN, NOT not to lose.  I was scared… often.

    Yet I was willing (and it was REALLY scary) to Leave the Good in order to Welcome the Great.

    Obviously, different people have different tolerance for risk. Be aware of your risk tolerance, respect it yet see if you can stretch it a bit…and a bit more…and more.

    Fortune favors the bold.

    The suggestions offered here may feel like scary or crazy… Keep practicing them anyway.

    Things will start shifting… your feelings will change, your energy will change….
    You will start creating and experiencing forward-moving momentum.

    Synchronizations and serendipitous experiences will be happening, you will start attracting good opportunities instead of repelling them.

    Risk is embedded in any business or investing decisions.

    Nothing is guaranteed in life (except taxes and death.)

    BUT it doesn’t mean that you should stay away from any endeavors that involve risk, not at all!

    Instead, you’ve got to:

    • Become aware of your particular risk tolerance and;
    • Take decisions that involve measured/mindful risk so that your possibility for success exceeds the possibility of loss
    • Your loss will not put you into despair and make you lose sleep
    • Develop courage and Be Willing to Leave the Good to Welcome the Great.

    Comment below and tell me how this Essential #7 lands on you…. What resonated? What did not?

    To your health wealth & Happiness

    Millen Livis - Wealth Architect and Financial Empowerment Mentor

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  • Essential #4 for Creating Wealth and Success

    Essential #4 for Creating Wealth and Success

    What does “Think, Feel, and LIVE Wealthy” mean to you?

    You might be surprised…but this is the essential #4 for creating Wealth and Success!

    Yep. That’s right. And before you whisper “phew, I know that!”, let me elaborate.

    For most people “living wealthy” means staying at 5-star hotels, going to fancy restaurants, wearing designer cloth, driving a luxury car, living in a gorgeous house….

    Guess what? 

    You don’t have to OWN it, you can SAMPLE it, then Create it!

    You can experience that which you’d like to have before owning it!

    Yes, SAMPLE YOUR DESIRES!

    You can go to car dealerships and ask to test-drive your favorite car.

    You can meet with a realtor and ask her to show you houses that you’d love to live in. 

    You can visit these houses, FOCUS ON YOUR DESIRE to live in such houses, get super excited and motivated, and start creating your imaginary Wealthy Life though feeling it, sampling it, and…yes, “faking” living it as if you already have it.

    What can you do to reinforce that? 

    The key is to affirm that you belong there and deserve that kind of wealth and abundance in your life.

    You possess powerful faculties – AWARENESS, IMAGINATION, ATTENTION, and INTENTION – that you can use to create your NEW WAY of BEING. 

    Your new way of being could be feeling and having more wealth, or achieving financial independence, or buying a new car, or moving into a new house, or feeling more at peace, successful and confident. 

    So, what do you think about an idea that you can choose to think, feel and act abundantly to start creating financial wealth?

    Frankly, I used to make fun of notorious “fake it until you make it” statement. 

    But guess what? 

    It works. 

    Let me share one examples from my own life. 

    When we used to live in New York, we would come to the Winter Garden at the World Financial Center around Christmas time, look at the beautiful view on the river, the yachts at the marina, the Christmas tree, the ambiance of wealth and success. 

    And I would imagine how cool it could be to work here. To be in this environment, this gorgeous place…. 

    Guess what?! 

    A couple of years later, I got a job with a company in this very building and we had amazing Christmas parties in this exact place, the Winter Garden!

    Coincidence? I don’t think so. 

    So, how does “fake it until you make it” work? 

    You can put yourself in a state of abundance, fullness, and wholeness by using your 

    –        awareness (e.g. “I am creating a new way of being), 
    –        physiology (e.g. abdominal breathing, adjusting your posture, relaxing your facial muscles and shoulders, eye contact, smiling,) 
    –        psychology (e.g. shifting your perception about your current situation, focusing on and appreciating what you have, etc.), 

    and your life experiences will change.

    If you’ve been struggling financially, most likely you’ve been blocked by your old conditioning that keeps you focusing on what’s missing, what’s not working… 

    If you PRACTICE looking, thinking, and acting abundantly, you’ll shift your attention, up level your energetic vibration, and begin to FEEL differently, which will start attracting new opportunities into your life.

    And one more thing. The way you look – your outfit, your posture, your hair and facial expression – conveys your physiological and psychological states and your energy. 

    And people feel your energy without exchanging a single word with you. And most importantly, looking good feels good! 

    When you FEEL GOOD, YOU LOOK GOOD, and YOU DO GOOD.

    Wear clothes that make YOU feel prosperous, confident, cool (and that means different things for different people)! 

    De-clutter your wardrobe from the old and unattractive stuff – only wear clothes and colors that reflect where you want to be not where you have been. 

    And it doesn’t have to be super expansive stuff either – just something that makes YOU FEEL GOOD.

    Follow your “FEEL GOOD” compass!  

    Think, Feel, and Live Wealthy.

    Deep transformations require patience and practice.

    The suggestions offered here may feel like fake for some time…. Keep practicing anyway, keep training your mind without attachments. And have fun with it! 

    Things will start shifting, your feelings will change, your energy will change, and you will start attracting amazing opportunities instead of repelling them.

    I’d love to hear from you! Hit the reply and let me know what you think about the Essential #4.
    What resonates with you? What does not?

    Until Next time…STAY EMPOWERED.

    To your Health, Wealth, and Freedom!

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  • Essential #3 for Creating Wealth and Success

    Essential #3 for Creating Wealth and Success

    What you appreciate, appreciates.

    I am pretty sure you’ve heard the phrase “What you appreciate, appreciates” a few time already.

    However, today I want you to really hear me and TRULY embrace the power you have by being AWARE of your Focus of Attention.

    Because…WHAT YOU FOCUS ON, EXPANDS.

    That brings me to the Essential # 3 for Creating Wealth and Success:

    Use the Power of Your Attention


    Let me share with you briefly my personal story to demonstrate this power.

    After I resigned from my “comfortable” job to go to the business school, left my “comfortable” marriage and started my own investment business, I expected that my life will be more exciting, more meaningful, and more adventurous.

    Well, the beginning was too adventurous…. I felt like I was on a roller-coaster and then hit a wall. Everything seemed to be falling apart – from my health, to my business, to money and relationships.

    My critical mind was constantly bringing my attention to what was NOT working (e.g. business, health, relationship) and what I didn’t have (e.g. a house, family, money).

    ​​I felt like a total failure.

    You see, everybody goes through some crazy phases in life when it feels like everything is falling apart. That is the time to TRAIN your mind to focus on what works in your life and count your blessings!

    Awareness of YOUR ATTENTION is paramount if you want to start creating your life intentionally/consciously.

    Just like you use a remote control to switch a TV channel from something you don’t like, you can use your AWARENESS as your lever to direct your attention intentionally. And where your attention goes, energy flows.

    Now let’s look at this essential principal from a practical perspective as it pertains to managing your money and creating wealth.

    I am a big proponent of fiscal discipline. You’ve got to be a good custodian of your money if you want your money to “hang out” with you and in your world.

    However, fiscal discipline is NOT the same as frugality.

    For example, when you choose to save money, make sure you focus on what you say YES to, not what you say NO to.

    You want to make financial decisions from a place of abundance and respect for your money, not lack and fear of “not enough”.

    When you make a decision to put some money aside into your “peace of mind” fund (aka emergency fund),

    ​​are you making this decisions from a place of fullness (e.g. “YES, I CAN SAVE, I LOVE PAYING MYSELF FIRST and having the “peace of mind” fund”)

    OR

    from a place of lack and scarcity (“I don’t have enough to put money aside”, “my income is too small to save money”, “I have to save for the “rainy day””)?

    That’s an important question to ask yourself if you want to test your focus.

    If you focus on all the abundance you already have and what else you want to create in your life, then saving money becomes an empowering experience!

    This is an important distinction to remember.

    Let’s talk about ”The grass is always greener on the other side” syndrome – comparing yourself and your life with others, focusing on what “they” have and you do not.

    There is always someone out there who may have more of what you want – more wealth, more success, more love, more fame, whatever. And if you focus on what “they have and you do not”, YOU make yourself “LESS THAN THEM.”

    It adds stress, pressure, and triggers toxic “I’m not lucky/not enough” feelings….

    YOU sabotage yourself.

    What if you flip this and think about all the people who have less than you, who would love to have what you have – health, home, family, friends, etc.

    Remember that NOTHING is GUARANTEED in life – what you have NOW is not guaranteed forever.

    Bring your ATTENTION and ACKNOWLEDGE what you have NOW, and the progress you’ve made thus far. Then decide which areas of your life you want to up-level.

    Once you stop comparing yourself and your life with someone else’s (who may have more wealth and success right now), and intentionally use your attention to focus on what YOU HAVE at the moment in your life and what YOU CAN adjust (e.g. upgrade your skills, become more aware of your old beliefs and money patterns, etc.), you will release stress, feel better, and elevate your mental and emotional energy.

    THAT will create a rich ground for more opportunities and wealth in your life.

    There is a great Buddhist saying: “There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.”

    Gratitude is the way. Being in the Now is the way. Realizing how fortunate you are in so many ways… is the way.

    YOU CAN CHOOSE where you direct your attention. 

    YOU CAN CHOOSE what you give your energy to.

    YOUR ATTENTION DIRECTS YOUR ENERGY.

    What YOU SEE, IS.

    What YOU FOCUS ON, EXPANDS.

    To your Health, Wealth and Freedom!

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  • Essential #1 for Creating Wealth and Success

    Essential #1 for Creating Wealth and Success

     

    Would you agree that many people go through life and are constantly looking for keys to success, wealth, freedom, happiness….

    And very few realize that they have ALL the keys in them!

    I’ve observed many successful people and had a few experiences of truly remarkable successes and epic “failures” myself.

    So, starting today and for the next few weeks, I’m going to share with you some powerful Principles for Creating Success and Wealth.

    Essential #1 for Creating Wealth and Success:

    Take full responsibility for your financial situation

    • Let go of the “victim” attitude around money and wealth

    If you keep feeling, thinking and saying something like “I’m not lucky”, “I’m not good with money”, “I am not meant to be wealthy”, etc. – you will be experiencing events and circumstances that are congruent with this attitude and these thought patterns.

    That’s why you must let go of the victim attitude around money and wealth.

    You are in victim mode when you’re justifying, blaming or complaining how unlucky you are or how hard it is; when you’re willing to be disrespected or mistreated on some level only to maintain some sense of safety or comfort; when you’re making someone (or something) your Source and experience pain and suffering as the result of this; when you feel that life is happening to you, not for you.

    You are in empowered mode when you take full responsibility for your financial situation; accept where you are; acknowledge the challenges and start focusing on possible solutions – what you can do every day, every month and every year to make your life situation better.

    YOU can only change what is under your control – your attitude, your choices, your focus.

    • Do not make anyone or anything your Source; do not give your power away

    Any time you make someone or something the Source of your success, wealth or happiness, you set yourself up for disappointment.

    Because when you become cut off from your true Source – God / Universe / Divine Intelligence – you may run out of energy, feel overwhelmed, and burned out.

    It makes it impossible for you to show up authentically – to be the person you were created to be, giving the gifts you were meant to give and fulfilling the greater purpose life has for you.

    NOBODY is your Source. Yet everybody can be your channel…of abundance, or wisdom, or expansion, or transformation, or love….

    • Make money important in your life

    Taking responsibility for your financial situation involves a decision to make money important in your life.

    Making money important doesn’t mean becoming attached to the symbols of wealth (e.g. expensive gadgets, designer clothes and fancy cars) and linking your personal worth to your net worth.

    Making money important means appreciating the money you have right now; paying attention to your relationship with money and your money habits; having the intention of growing wealth, and becoming a savvy manager of your money.

    Energy flows where attention goes. And Money is energy.

    • Use the power of PERSPECTIVE

    Look for lessons and gifts that could be present in your challenging experiences. Pay attention to the MEANING YOU ASSIGN to your experiences…the STORY YOU CREATE about your situation.

    As Dr Wayne Dyer said “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change.”

    Adopt the belief that life happens FOR you, NOT TO you.

    Let me know what AHAs or insights you got from this Principal #1!

    Until next time… stay empowered.

    To your Health, Wealth and Freedom!

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