Corona virus, elections, recession, anger, frustration…
I chose not to subscribe to the gloom and doom out there.
“I’m in this world but not of it.”
Being an alternative thinker in many ways, I chose to “mind my own business” and not be programmed by media frenzy – the Halloween commercials and the myriad of political ads.
Specifically, I chose to write about some lessons I learned from my journey…and share them with you!
My journey to Financial Independence transformed EVERYTHING about my personality, my views on success and failure, my values and goals, and my priorities in life.
I truly believe that this transformation in my personality helped me experience a drastically different reality than I used to have.
I literally went From being financially broke, emotionally broken, alone, and ashamed To living the reality where I travel the world when I want, live in resort-like locations in the South of France and South Florida, have a happy marriage, and fulfilling work.
So, today, I want to share with you the first lesson I learned from my fascinating journey to Financial Independence.
1) It taught me to “Play to Win” and “Surrender”.
I used to have a LOT of fears…
Fear of being homeless, fear of being dependent, fear of not living my full potential, etc.
As you can see, I was “planning” my life experiences from a very “scary place.”
These fears were paralyzing….
I felt “why bother”? “It’s not meant for me!” “It’s just not realistic for me”…
At some point, I was close to giving up on myself…and on my life.
But then, by the grace of God, I met a life coach who helped me shift my perspective on everything – success, failure, possibilities…
So, I turned 180 degrees – became a certified yoga and meditation instructor, and a student of science of conciseness.
I also chose to “be in the arena” and “play to win” – learn how to manage money intentionally, how to invest strategically, how to focus on abundance in my life…
No. Matter. What.
I used to fly around the country to attend investment conferences and trainings, so I could spend time with driven and ambitious people and learn from great mentors.
I have invested in myself generously.
I would learn.
I would apply.
I would tweak and adjust.
I would focus.
My confidence grew. As well as my self-worth.
Finally. my experience with strategic investing started to be reflected in my financial worth.
I also learned not to give up when things felt overwhelming…
I’d take a break from my work, observe what was happening for me (my feelings), and just allow myself to feel them…fear, regret, sadness, grief…
I would not resist any feelings but instead stay still and allow myself to feel whatever was happening for me.
And surrender…to Intelligent Love.
Then get back “on the horse” and keep going.
Because “I’m in it to win it.”
2) It Taught me that “Failure” is feedback.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – said Thomas Edison
You’ve got to be able to find lessons and gifts in any “failure.”
When I was going through my “hell tunnel” in life, I felt like a total failure.
I had great credentials and experience (Masters degree in Physics, M.B.A. from the Wharton Business School, successful career on Wall Street, blah-blah-blah) and here I was – spiraling down into the deepest depression I’ve ever experienced…after failing with my first investment business.
I felt ashamed, embarrassed, and like a total failure…
“What’s the point of my life?” I thought…
I had wrapped my identity up so much around my professional success that it was the only important thing to me at that time….
And it took me some time to realize that “failure” is not bad or wrong.
Failure is feedback you receive that points you to what you haven’t known before, and highlights the changes that need to be made.
It’s NOT a judgement of your character. It’s not a life sentence of misery and unhappiness.
It’s feedback. And a lesson.
The feedback that will point you to what you never knew before.
The lesson that will help you be better and do better because now you know better.
And this can be applied to all areas of your life – health, relationships, career, and finances.
3) It taught me to Commit and Have a Guide.
I have a girlfriend who says “I wish I could have enough money not to work at my job… I wish I could live like you”.
She loves traveling, she loves languages and different cultures.
However, she still works at her job that she hates.
She still in a relationship that doesn’t work for her.
She still spends money on things that don’t bring her closer to her financial goals.
She still makes bad financial decisions….
And she still feels that she “cannot afford to hire a coach”…
For years she kept saying “I feel stuck, I want to change” yet she is unable to get unstuck!
Hasn’t she learned from her 20+ years (since I know her) that talking and wishing is not going to suddenly change you and your life?
Here’s the thing….
It’s not about 20 years in your life.
It’s about 20 years of living consciously – having clarity and courage to make the changes you know are needed.
And also about committing to your dreams – persevere through challenges and obstacles – because you know WHY you want to experience it, how amazing you’ll feel once you realize your dream….
And it’s also about being humble and wise to ask for guidance and support. Yes, I believe you can go farther when you have a guide (or a coach/mentor) than on your own.
Not because you’re not capable or not smart.
But because the right guide can help you stay focused on what’s important, keep you accountable for your choices and help you get to your goals faster and with more ease.
And not just that…
The right guide will hold possibilities for you that you may not see or not believe in…at the moment.
Many people say they want to have more freedom, they want not to worry about money anymore, and not feel stuck at a job they hate or be slave to their business….
Yet they stay uncomfortably complacent, letting the opportunities pass them by… waiting for the right time, year after year after year.
Until the Universe kicks their a$$ and pushes them to get ready and ask for help.
I used to be one of these people.
I had to literally “crash” in life (lose family, home, money, hope) before I was ready to ask for help.
I was blinded by ignorance and pride….
Now I know that pride is the game of our ego. Wisdom is the way of our Higher Self.
What lessons have you learned from YOUR journey? What helped YOU overcome challenges? Be more successful? More confident? More happy?
To your Health, Wealth, and Freedom!
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Millen is a Wealth architect and Financial Independence Coach, entrepreneur, and a bestselling author. Being a Possibilities' Catalyst, she uses her intuition, business, and investment expertise to support entrepreneurial women (like you) who want to master their money, live their purpose achieve financial prosperity and freedom. With her physics and business education, corporate and entrepreneurial experience, money management know-how, mindfulness practices and transformational coaching skills, Millen has a unique ability to guide and support clients in achieving extraordinary success in their lives.